IN THIS ISSUE:
Your 'Love Magnet' Superpower! Yes, You Have One!By: Laura Menze
Whenever I teach a workshop, I learn something new or have a small epiphany where something I've been teaching all along is now seen in a whole new perspective. Last weekend was no exception! I was teaching one of my favorite workshops, 'Flirting 101' and sharing all of the basics around body language, choosing when/where to flirt, the mirroring technique and, of course, making yourself attractive to that special someone across the room!
What typically happens with any workshop that I do is that people ask questions and share their insights or scenarios in order to gain a better understanding of the material and internalize the information based upon their own experiences. In this particular workshop, we also go around the room and provide each other with 'first impression' feedback, which is very insightful and invaluable to each person!
As we were going around the room and telling each person how we perceived them and their energy, I noticed several people who had not really smiled the whole hour and a half we were together. However, when they were receiving feedback about themselves from other participants, they began to smile a big, gleaming, white smile! Not just a smirk, or a little smile with their lips, but a big toothy grin! And that’s when it occurred to me! While I’ve always pointed out that a smile is a simple, easy way to flirt, it was also each and every person’s Love Magnet Superpower! These people, who were being seen, now had a whole new energy that they were sharing in the room, and that energy was undeniably attractive! That simple smile made me want to learn more about each one of them!
While it may seem like a simple and obvious thing to do when dating or going to singles events, the problem is that we don’t do it or we do it very little or reluctantly! We really don’t smile all that often. In fact, it is something that I have consciously worked on ever since I began speaking in front of audiences. I used to smile with my lips and never show my teeth, which said to others that I was unsure of myself. Would you want to work with someone who was unsure of themselves? (Would you want to date someone who was unsure of themselves?) I was keenly aware at that time that a smile invited people in. A smile told others that I was confident and said, ‘Welcome! I’m open to learning more about you and willing to share things about me!’ Now, I smile with my teeth and don’t think twice about it.
Why is this smile so important? Confidence! Confidence is the sexiest thing we can wear that will attract others to us and nothing can be more simple or powerful than putting on a great, confident smile!
So, USE YOUR SUPERPOWER! Practice it at the grocery store, in the office, or with your friends and notice what happens when you do! Notice how differently people respond to you, then make sure you ALWAYS SMILE when you are on a date or at a singles event. It is the simplest, most powerful thing you can do to attract that special someone!
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Laura Menze, is the Chief Love Officer at Ready-Match offering a unique and authentic approach to dating and matchmaking for singles in the Denver, Colorado area. By vetting clients for their Relationship Readiness, offering a Relationship Readiness Boot Camp & Personal Coaching that ultimately teaches Self-Matching, as well as offering Tru-Match Matchmaking, and Relationship Building services for new couples, Ready-Match truly supports its clients throughout all stages of getting ready for, finding, and establishing an amazing relationship! For more information click www.ready-match.com
When should I have the talk about health issues?
I have Hepatitis C. When is the appropriate time to let a potential partner know?
Wendy responds ...
Thanks so much for asking a question that many be wondering about. If you have Hepatitis C, Herpes, or any sexually transmitted disease, it is important to disclose this information to a potential sexual partner. The right time to share is not on the first date when you are meeting nor when you are both naked under the covers for the first time. If you both are seriously interested in getting intimately involved, you need to let them know early on. The third date is not too soon, as this information may affect their decision making about the relationship. It’s wise to lead with honesty and not withhold important information from your partner or potential partner. May you enjoy a healthy, happy connection with your new partner!
Wendy Lyon | www.DrWendyLyon.com
Dr. Jackie responds ...
Thank you for your important question. In my view, it is never too soon to disclose that you have Hep C. It is an incontrovertible fact and there is no reason to keep it a secret.
The right person will not be put off or deterred from dating you.
If someone judges you and stops dating you because you have Hep C, then he or she is not someone you want to be with anyway! Your courage to tell the truth will have served you well.
When you tell someone about having Hep C and they hear that you are comfortable saying, “This is what it is, how I manage it, and how I live my life,” you send an unmistakable message to them about YOU.
The right person will follow your lead and recognize that this is part of the journey of being with you.
Remember, only You can make it happen!
Dr. Jackie Black | www.drjackieblack.com
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