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• Feature Article: My Top Requirements
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1	Conscious Mating Audio Programs	New!
2	F'ree Training:  Introduction to Relationship Coaching	Wednesday Nov 21
3	Our Anniversary Gifts for YOU!	Happy Anniversary!

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Announcing:
Conscious Mating Audio Programs

When you're dating someone do you ever wonder-
"Is this the right relationship for me?"

Our Conscious Mating Audio Programs provide detailed, comprehensive strategies for dating and mating, addressing all the relationship and decision-making challenges that arise when you're in the pre-commitment stage of a relationship.

These audio programs are recorded from our live tele-seminars and include the MP3 audio file for playing on your computer, MP3 player (iPod or other), or burning onto a CD, AND a complete PDF transcript for following along and making notes.

Program #1- Is This the Right Relationship for Me? Introduction to the Pre-commitment Stage

Program #2- Am I Ready to Be a Couple?

Program #3- Finding Lasting Love by Experiencing Your Experience

Program #4- Should We Live Together?

Program #5- Dealing With Our Baggage

Program #6- Are We Compatible?

Program #7- Sharing Our Vision

Program #8- Deciding "Is This The One?"

Program #9- When We Must Say Goodbye

Check them out at www.ConsciousMatingAudio.com

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F`REE TRAINING:  
Introduction to Relationship Coaching
Wednesday, November 21
9:00am pacific/Noon eastern

Learn how to coach singles, couples, and develop a successful Relationship Coaching practice, taught by RCI founder David Steele and his teaching staff.

Introduction to Relationship Coaching is a 90-minute tele-training that covers:

How to Coach Singles

• The Case for Relationship Coaching
• Five Stages of Relationship Coaching
• Top Ten Guidelines of Relationship Coaching
• Introduction to our ground-breaking Conscious Dating coaching program for singles

How to Coach Couples

• Important Facts about Couples
• Benefits of Committed Relationships
• Comparing Coaching and Therapy
• Commitment: The Path to Relationship Happiness?
• Coaching Committed vs. Pre-Committed Couples
• Solvable vs. Unsolvable Relationship Problems

How to Build a Successful Relationship Coaching Practice

• Seven Habits of Highly Successful Practitioners
• Top Five Secrets for Building a Successful Practice
• Top Five Tips for Marketing That Gets Results
• And more!

Your registration includes practical information and materials you can use immediately in your practice.

To register (it's f`ree!) sign up here

Can't make our training date/times? This tele-training is recorded for those unable to attend live, and we also offer an ON-LINE VERSION

Please share with your colleagues!

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Our Anniversary Gifts for YOU!

RCI was founded ten years ago! See last month's issue for the full story.

To celebrate, here are some anniversary gifts for YOU to show our appreciation for your support.

Gift #1: Introduction to Relationship Coaching Audio Program

This is a 51 minute excerpt from our Relationship
Coaching Home Study Program.

Recorded from a live training workshop, this audio program includes:

- New hope for singles and couples in today's world
- Five stages of relationship coaching for singles and couples
- From couples therapist to relationship coach
- Facts and statistics about today's relationships
- Top Ten Guidelines of Relationship Coaching

Download this program here

Gift #2:Wallet Card and Audio Program- Top Five Tips for a Successful Practice and Four Closing Questions That Will Get You Hired

Brand new! Access here

Gift #3: Newly Revised and Updated Communication Map and Audio Tutorial

Download new Communication Map here

Access Communication Map Tutorial here

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Feature Article:
My Top Requirements

by David Steele

In this article David Steele clarifies Requirements, a key RCI relationship coaching concept, with some very personal sharing about his own relationship journey.

In my life I've struggled to understand love and relationships, not having a good start growing up, which propelled me into my profession as a Marriage and Family Therapist and Relationship Coach. I'm sure you can relate.

While I'm quite competent helping others I'm still on the path of find lasting love for myself. My first marriage was doomed from the start... too young, too different in irreconcilable ways. I needed to learn that love doesn't conquer all and that not all problems are solvable.

I thought I was more conscious in my second marriage, but being in love caused me to ignore many obvious red flags. Being older didn't make me wiser, and being a therapist didn't give me an edge in making that marriage work.

My two divorces taught me that, indeed, like it or not, agree with it or not, we do have non-negotiable requirements that must be met for a relationship to work. I was determined to be conscious in my future relationships and in exploring what that meant wrote the book Conscious Dating

My next two relationships, one for 5 years, one for 1 year, were both with very good women that I respected, liked, admired, fit most of my requirements, but no chemistry for me. I was trying to be "conscious" and avoid the pitfalls of unconsciousness. That swing of the pendulum didn't work either.

Having learned the hard way about the necessity of having non-negotiable requirements, here are my top requirements for my next (and hopefully last) relationship-

1. Strong chemistry

I want to desire my partner, be excited by my partner at a chemical, physical level. I've experienced this before and learned that it's crucial for a passionate, alive, long-term relationship.

2. I require to be loved, understood, and accepted deeply for who I am.

My partner needs to "get" me so well that I don't need to constantly explain where I'm coming from, what I'm thinking, feeling, intending, meaning.

I've felt misunderstood for most of my life by the people close to me that didn't "get" me. My best friendships and relationships are with people that are able to practically see inside me and understand where I'm coming from. My most difficult relationships are with people that see me through filters so opaque with their own stuff that my good heart and intentions are unseen.

3. I require a relationship that brings out the best in me as I bring out the best in my partner.

This might mean challenging each other a bit (I do like a challenge), but it mostly means loving and supporting each other with positive energy, believing in each other 100%, "getting" each other so that the relationship is safe and emotionally free.

4. I require positive, optimistic, joyful thoughts, actions, attitudes, and energy in my life and relationship.

I grew up with a lot of unhappiness and negativity, but my personality/nature is positive, optimistic and adventurous about life, and I want a partner that shares that so we can live in that space together. In this context "problems" are a challenge to be met with positive energy, optimism that it'll work out fine, not as indicators that something or someone is "wrong."

5. I require a relationship that has a higher mission than personal happiness.

Of course I want to be happy and for my partner to be happy. But I've learned that you can't find happiness by focusing on yourself and your needs in a self-centered way. Fulfillment comes from giving, making a difference in the world, accomplishments that sometimes take sacrifice, learning, growing, stretching, etc. I don't want my partner resenting my work because it interferes with "our time," I want my partner's support for my work and trust that I value and want "our time" as well, and that we both do our best as adults to balance the needs of our work, family, relationship, etc.

6. I require a strong spiritual connection

So strong that we feel connected even when apart, or one of us is traveling. When you are complete and whole, you don't need your partner to complete you or do or say anything for you to be OK. When two complete and whole people love each other, they can be apart and the love and connection doesn't diminish, doesn't go away or sink into emotional deficit.

7. I require a soul mate

My soul mate will match and mirror me in some ways, complement and challenge me in others, fitting with me like hand in glove which results in manifesting all of the above. This is no ordinary relationship that can be achieved with just anyone, especially by settling. While I don't believe there is only one specific soul mate for anyone, I do believe in a connection that goes beyond the present, sensory world and is "meant to be."

The best evidence I have for the existence of "soul mates" are couples I've known that fit together so well they seem to belong together, it seems like they've always been together and you can't imagine them not together. I want a relationship like that!

I'm sure there's more, but this is what I'm aware of that I'm seeking. My commitment to myself is to not settle for less than this as I have before, which means (in my language/paradigm) they are more than wants or needs, they are requirements. I trust that this is possible, that I deserve it, am capable of this kind of relationship, that if I don't settle for less I will find my soul mate and experience this kind of relationship.

Having settled for less in the past and having had the alternatives, I'd rather be alone than in a relationship without this. I'm complete as I am and can give myself all these things! However, I value partnership, committed life partnership, and despite all my "failures" have not given up on my romantic dream to be married for life and grow old with my soul mate. Now that I've put my requirements out there for you and the world to see I have no doubt the Law of Attraction will bring them to me!

Visit our website for more information about Requirements and other RCI relationship coaching tools and concepts.

© 2007 Relationship Coaching Institute– All rights reserved.

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Invitations

Invitation #1
Please share this newsletter with a colleague.  There is a tremendous need for our services, and we need to work together. Relationship Coaching is in its infancy, and we must collaborate to build our market niche and position as a resource of wide appeal for anyone who wants a successful relationship.

Invitation #2
I invite you to listen to the following introductory recordings 24 hours a day at your convenience by visiting http://www.relationshipcoachinginstitute.com/audio/index.htm

• Commitment: The Secret Ingredient to Relationship Happiness
• Introduction to Relationship Coaching
• Conscious Dating for Relationship Success
• Conscious Mating: Is This the Right Relationship for Me?
• And more!

Invitation #3
I invite you to join our f`ree Introduction to Relationship Coaching tele-training.

Invitation #4
To subscribe to this newsletter, our newsletter for SINGLES, our newsletter for COUPLES, or our GETTTING CLIENTS newsletter, visit
http://www.relationshipcoachinginstitute.com/forms/subscribe.htm

Invitation #5
To learn more about Relationship Coaching this article is a great place to start-
Relationship Coaching: New Hope for Singles and Couples

Invitation #6
To learn more about Relationship Coaching Institute check out-
RCI: More Than Relationship Coaching Training

How do you like our newsletter? Your feedback is welcome!  Until next time....

Best regards,
David Steele, MA, LMFT
Relationship Coach
CEO and Founder of Relationship Coaching Institute
David@RelationshipCoachingInstitute.com
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Telephone:  888.268.4074

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The purpose of this newsletter is to connect, support each other, inform, and build a strong community of coaches dedicated to helping people find fulfillment in their lives and relationships.

This monthly newsletter is written for the benefit of RCI Relationship Coaches, and is available to interested others. Feel free to share this with a colleague. Your submissions and feedback are welcome!

Our Mission
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Links to Us

Relationship Coaching Institute
F`ree introductory training!
http://www.relationshipcoachinginstitute.com

BuildingYourIdealPractice.com
F`ree monthly tele-seminars!
http://www.buildingyouridealpractice.com

Conscious Dating for Singles
F`ree audio programs, e-programs, and more!
www.ConsciousDating.org

Partners in Life for Couples
F`ree audio programs, e-programs, and more!
www.PartnersInLife.org

F`ree Monthly Conscious Relationship Tele-Seminar Series
www.ConsciousRelationshipSeminars.com

F`ree Conscious Relationship Audio Programs
www.ConsciousRelationshipPodcast.com

F`ree Conscious Dating Tele-Seminar Series for Singles
www.ConsciousDatingSeminars.com

F`ree Conscious Dating Tele-Clinic for Singles
www.ConsciousDatingTeleclinic.com

Member of Relationship Coaching Network
F`ree resources for singles, couples and professionals
http://www.relationshipcoachingnetwork.org

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