Relationship Coaching News
August 2007
Editor- David Steele
Founder and CEO
Relationship Coaching Institute
Copyright 2007 by Relationship Coaching Institute. All rights reserved. Feel free to share with others as long as our contact information and authorship is included. U.S. Library of Congress ISSN#1530-3055.
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| 1 | RCI's 10 Year Anniversary! | 2007 |
| 2 | New and improved Communication Map launches | Now available! |
| 3 | Free Training: Introduction to Relationship Coaching | Tuesdays, August 7, 14, 21 |
| 4 | Free Conscious Mating Tele-seminar | August 22 |
| 5 | Free Conscious Relationship Tele-seminar | August 9 |
RCI's 10 Year Anniversary!
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New and improved Communication Map now available!
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FREE TRAINING:
Introduction to Relationship Coaching
Starts August 7th
Learn how to coach singles, couples, and develop a successful Relationship Coaching practice, taught by RCI founder David Steele and his teaching staff.
Introduction to Relationship Coaching includes 3 one-hour tele-classes, Tuesdays, August 7, 14, and 21; 9:00am pacific/Noon eastern.
| Class #1 | How to Coach Singles | August 7 |
| Class #2 | How to Coach Couples | August 14 |
| Class #3 | How to Build a Successful Relationship Coaching Practice | August 21 |
Each class includes practical information and materials you can use immediately in your practice.
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Can't make our training dates/times? Each class is recorded for those unable to attend, and we also offer an ON-LINE VERSION
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Free Conscious Mating Tele-Seminar SeriesWednesday, August 22, 5:30pm pacific/8:30pm eastern
Conscious Mating:
Deciding "Is This the One?"
With David Steele and Linda Marshall
When singles become pre-committed couples they ask themselves "Is this the right relationship for me? Is this 'The One' for a lifetime commitment?" Fearing relationship failure, many avoid making this decision, and as a result the marriage rate is declining.
Most of us want a fulfilling committed relationship. Our goal in Conscious Mating is to provide you the information and strategies for answering the question "Is this the right relationship for me?"
In this program you will learn:
- How to identify relationship red flags and danger signs
- How to know if you're talking yourself into (or out of) a relationship because of fear
- Our #1 Strategy for determining "Is this 'The One?'"
- Three powerful questions you need to ask yourself before considering commitment
- Nine areas of a relationship to evaluate for decision-making
- How to get off the fence, "Be the Chooser" and live happily ever after with your soul mate
- And more!
No need to register! To access this seminar use this link-
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As a subscriber you will receive reminders a few days prior and the day of the seminar.
Can't attend? No problem. The recordings of all our programs are available free at www.consciousrelationshippodcast.com
Free Conscious Relationship Tele-Seminar Series
On the second Thursday of each month we conduct a free tele-seminar on relatioships featuring top experts!.
Thursday, August 9, 5:30pm pacific/8:30pm eastern
No More Mr. Nice Guy! Getting What You Want in Love, Sex, and Life
With Robert Glover, Ph.D.
- Too concerned about what other people think of you?
- Spend too much time taking care of other people?
- Having a hard time making your intimate relationships work?
- Frustrated with your sex life?
In No More Mr. Nice Guy!, Dr. Robert Glover presents a proven plan to get what you want in love, sex and life. Whether you're single and looking for love or in a relationship that you want to become all it can be, Dr. Glover will help you identify your own self-defeating behaviors and find what you're looking for.
In this program you will learn-
- How to stop seeking approval and make your needs a priority
- How to build healthy, vibrant relationships
- How to tell the truth with love
- How to set the tone and take the lead without being controlling
- Three rules for great sex
No need to register! To access this seminar use this link-
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As a subscriber you will receive reminders a few days prior and the day of the seminar.
Can't attend? No problem. The recordings of all our programs are available free at www.consciousrelationshippodcast.com
Feature Article:
Helping Your Clients Identify Dating Red Flags
by David Steele
Below is a Dating Red Flags Checklist to help singles identify possible red flags in a prospective relationship
I. Projecting the Future:
1. _____ Would I want to spend the rest of my life with this person exactly as they are?
2. _____ Would I want this person to raise my child?
3. _____ Would I want my child to be exactly like this person?
II. Are You Talking Yourself Into a Relationship?
4. _____ Do I want to rescue or "help" them because I
see their potential?5. _____ I love the way they look or their status and it builds my self-esteem to be with them.
6. _____ We have some things in common and so I'm
avoiding looking at glaring differences.7. _____ They appear to be totally different than people
I've been with in the past.8. _____ I'm focusing on one important quality (money, sex, fun, humor, etc) and ignoring unmet
requirements.
III. Danger Signs
9. _____ Reacts to frustration with anger, rage, blame
10. _____ Blames others or circumstances for life situation
11. _____ Tries to control everything, including me
12. _____ Immature, impulsive, and/or irresponsible
13. _____ Emotionally distant or void, aloof
14. _____ Still pining for a past relationship
15. _____ Wants me to make their sad life better
16. _____ Married or otherwise unavailable to commit to me
17. _____ Active addiction, addictive behavior
(rationalized as "not a problem")
IV. Other Common Red Flags
18. _____ Is pessimistic and negative about things
that matter to me19. _____ Lacks integrity in dealing with people, money, etc.
20. _____ Judgmental attitude toward themselves & others
21. _____ Unwilling to self-examine, accept feedback,
take responsibility22. _____ Doesn't keep agreements
23. _____ What they say about themself doesn't match
reality24. _____ Emotional roller coaster, recurring or regular
emotional drama25. _____ This isn't what I really want, but I don't want
to be alone26. _____ Changeable, inconsistent behavior
27. _____ Inability to listen
28. _____ I notice myself trying to change this person to fit
what I want, instead of accepting them for who
they are29. _____ Talks too much (especially about self),
monopolizes conversation30. _____ Overly quiet, withdrawn
Results
A. Total checked items from Section II, III, and IV _______
B. Circle the checked items that need close attention,
decision-making, or require more information.
C. On a scale from 0 (Not at all) to 100 (Perfect fit) my minimum score for considering any relationship is _______
D. Using the above scale I score this potential
relationship _______
E. Based upon the above results, I-- should / shouldn't
(circle one)
proceed dating this potential partner.
Note: If it's clear you should not proceed dating this potential partner and you have any difficulty moving on, we strongly suggest showing this checklist to your best friend, close family member, therapist or coach and get the support you need to be "The Chooser."
Source: This checklist was created by Linda Marshall and David Steele, with invaluable and much appreciated input from RCI coaches.
© 2007 Relationship Coaching Institute– All rights reserved.
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- Commitment: The Secret Ingredient to Relationship Happiness
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- Conscious Dating for Relationship Success
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Best regards,
David Steele, MA, LMFT
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