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1	RCI's 10 Year Anniversary!	2007
2	New and improved Communication Map launches	Now available!
3	F'ree Training:  Introduction to Relationship Coaching	Tuesdays, June 5, 12, 19
4	F`ree Conscious Dating Tele-seminar	June 7
5	F`ree Conscious Relationship Tele-seminar	June 14

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RCI's 10 Year Anniversary!

Help us celebrate by wishing us Happy Anniversary and let us know how RCI has made a difference for you here

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New and improved Communication Map now available!

Simple and easy to understand

Learn and implement in less than an hour

Universal- works for all relationships and settings- work, home, business, family, parenting, couples, etc

Tested and proven by hundreds of graduates of Relationship Coaching Institute

Designed to quickly and effectively address interpersonal issues and problems to prevent and resolve conflict, The Communication Map can be learned by anyone in less than an hour.

The Communication Map is 8 1/2 x 11 inches, full-color, laminated for durability, and comes with a 44-minute audio CD tutorial.

View a sample here

       - Easily and intuitively understood

       - Jargon-free

       - Immediate results

       - Learn in one hour or less

       - Implement without professional help

Practical, effective, and affordable conflict resolution tool for personal and professional relationships

Discounts for multiple copies / F`ree shipping!

For more information about The Communication Map visit www.thecommunicationmap.com

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F`REE TRAINING:  
Introduction to Relationship Coaching
Starts June 5th

Learn how to coach singles, couples, and develop a successful Relationship Coaching practice, taught by RCI founder David Steele and his teaching staff.

Introduction to Relationship Coaching includes 3 one-hour tele-classes, Tuesdays, June 5, 12, 19; 9:00am pacific/Noon eastern.

Class #1	How to Coach Singles	June 5
Class #2	How to Coach Couples	June 12
Class #3	How to Build a Successful Relationship Coaching Practice	June 19

Each class includes practical information and materials you can use immediately in your practice.

To register (it's f`ree!) sign up here

Can't make our training dates/times? Each class is recorded for those unable to attend, and we also offer an ON-LINE VERSION

Please share with your colleagues!

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June Program
Thursday, June 7, 6:30pm pacific/9:30pm eastern

Conscious Dating Strategies:
Where to Find Your Soul Mate

With David Steele,
Frankie Doiron
and special guest, RCI Coach Jack Cook

We've been asking singles to tell us their biggest challenges with Conscious Dating and we've received many questions about where to meet your soul mate.

If you've ever wondered where to find that special someone, then this program's for you! We've even lined up a special guest expert to share his insights.

In this program you learn-

• Your attitude makes or breaks your potential for success, no matter where you look for a partner

• 5 key principles that will help you find your soul mate

• 4 levels of attraction venues and why you need to show up in all 4 to maximize your chances of meeting your special love

• The specific social and dating skills you need for each level of attraction venue

• How to effectively apply the “Rule of Three” to engage and connect with a potential date

• Why flirting skills are an essential part of every single’s toolkit

• And much more!

For your invitation to this seminar series click here

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F`ree Conscious Relationship Tele-Seminar Series:

On the second Thursday of each month we conduct a f`ree tele-seminar on relatioships featuring top experts!.

June Program
Thursday, June 14, 5:30pm pacific/8:30pm eastern

The Chemistry of Love

With Helen Fisher, Ph.D.

We are excited to feature pioneering anthropologist Dr. Helen Fisher who will share her as-yet-unpublished research (unless you count the June issue of Oprah Magazine) proposing Four Love Types, the neuro-chemicals that determine each type, and the role of these four types in relationship compatibility.

In this program you will learn:

• Four love types found in all romantic relationships
• The role of neuro-chemicals in determining each type
• Compatibility strengths and weaknesses of each type
• How to determine your Love Type
• Which types you're compatible with and how to spot them

No need to register! As a subscriber you will receive a reminder with the telephone bridge number needed to join a few days prior to the seminar.

Can't attend? No problem. The recordings of all our programs are available f`ree at www.ConsciousRelationshipPodcast.com

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Feature Article:
You're Single for a Reason

By David Steele

One of the hardest things for me to accept is that I create my own outcomes, whether I like them or not, my failures as well as my successes.

As a child of divorce I swore that when I got married it would be for life, yet I've been married and divorced twice. I wish it were different, but that is the reality I must accept about my life, and since I made my relationship choices, I can't blame my exes, my mother, father, or anyone else for my outcomes.

FATE AND DESTINY

As I wrote a few months ago in this space, I strongly believe in taking ownership for my life, choices, and outcomes, so much so that I call it The Most Important Relationship Skill. While my actions and choices largely determine my outcomes, as silly and incongruous as it might be, I also believe in "fate" or "destiny," that things happen as they're meant to happen. This force can also be called "The Law of Attraction," which helps me to embrace and accept "what is," believing that I'm exacting where I need to be, going where my life purpose needs to go.

I don't believe in chance or randomness. Things happen for a reason. When something happens that I don't like (divorce, car accident, etc) I've found that if I ask myself "What's the purpose or reason for this event?" I can always come up with one pretty easily, especially if I'm honest with myself. And darn it, the answer always seems to be something I need to learn, something the Universe is trying to teach me, that I'm resisting. As RCI coach LeAnn O'Neal says "Each painful moment is an opportunity for new expansion." I'll try to remember that next time...

ATTITUDE ADJUSTMENT

After 50 years on this planet I finally "got" that "what you resist, persists," and learned to examine and accept life's lessons. My attitude used to be "I know" and "I can handle it" and "I have it under control" (hey, at least it wasn't "It's their fault" and "Why me?" and "I deserve it!"). Now my attitude is a little more humble, such as "What do I need to learn?" and "What's the reason or purpose behind this?"

I'm very clear now that my outcomes are determined by how I show up, which is largely driven by my attitudes. What's inside shows up on the outside and what I'm thinking will become reality, so I must monitor and make conscious choices about what I allow my thoughts to focus upon. Wow, not only do I need to take responsibility for my actions, I have to own the consequences of my private thoughts and beliefs!

THE MOST IMPORTANT QUESTION

If you're single and would prefer to be in a fulfilling relationship, I'm playing with the idea that the most important coaching question for you is "Why are you single?"

"Why" doesn't mean "What happened?" or "Whose fault is it?" In this case "Why" refers to big picture questions such as "What is the purpose or reason for you being single at this time in your life?" and "What do you need to learn that is getting in the way of your relationships?"

WHAT DO YOU NEED TO LEARN?

If you're single and want a life partnership, what are the major life learnings or lessons that must be mastered before you can find your soul mate and live happily ever after? Here are five possibilities that occur to me-

1. Heal old wounds (emotional baggage)

2. Learn relationship skills (we're not born with a manual)

3. Learn to accept responsibility for your life, needs and outcomes

4. Identify and change unproductive habits and patterns

5. Identify and change unproductive attitudes and beliefs

As I review the above honestly I can see the things that my two divorces helped me to learn. As I look back on all the events that happened in my life that didn't go the way I wanted (like the time I crashed my sailboat into the rocks of Alcatraz) I can see they all happened for a reason related to one or more of the above that I needed to learn.

To paraphrase Jim Rohn, "Life doesn't give you what you want, need, or expect; Life gives you what you need to learn."

So, if you're single and reading this, why are you single at this time in your life? What do you need to learn to find and have a fulfilling relationship? I sincerely hope your answers to these questions lead you to the life and love that you really want.

© 2007 Relationship Coaching Institute / All rights reserved.

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Invitations

Invitation #1
Please share this newsletter with a colleague.  There is a tremendous need for our services, and we need to work together. Relationship Coaching is in its infancy, and we must collaborate to build our market niche and position as a resource of wide appeal for anyone who wants a successful relationship.

Invitation #2
I invite you to listen to the following introductory recordings 24 hours a day at your convenience by visiting http://www.relationshipcoachinginstitute.com/audio/index.htm (some are available by telephone)

• Commitment: The Secret Ingredient to Relationship Happiness
• The Communication Map™
• Introduction to Relationship Coaching
• Conscious Dating for Relationship Success
• Conscious Mating: Is This the Right Relationship for Me?
• And more!

Invitation #3
I invite you to join our f`ree Introduction to Relationship Coaching tele-training.

Invitation #4
To subscribe to this newsletter, our newsletter for SINGLES, our newsletter for COUPLES, or our GETTTING CLIENTS newsletter, visit
http://www.relationshipcoachinginstitute.com/forms/subscribe.htm

Invitation #5
To learn more about Relationship Coaching this article is a great place to start-
Relationship Coaching: New Hope for Singles and Couples

Invitation #6
To learn more about Relationship Coaching Institute check out-
RCI: More Than Relationship Coaching Training

How do you like our newsletter? Your feedback is welcome!  Until next time....

Best regards,
David Steele, MA, LMFT
Relationship Coach
CEO and Founder of Relationship Coaching Institute
David@RelationshipCoachingInstitute.com
http://www.RelationshipCoachingNetwork.org
http://www.RelationshipCoachingInstitute.com
http://www.BuildingYourIdealPractice.com
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http://www.PrivatePracticeMagic.com
http://www.privatepracticemarketingonabudget.com
http://www.consciousrelationshipresources.com
http://www.ConsciousRelationshipSeminars.com
http://www.ConsciousRelationshipArticles.com
http://www.ConsciousRelationshipPodcast.com
http://www.ConsciousRelationshipSpeaker.com
http://www.ConsciousDating.com
http://www.ConsciousDating.org
http://www.ConsciousDatingSeminars.com
http://www.ConsciousDatingTeleClinic.com
http://www.consciousmating.com
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Telephone:  888.268.4074

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For More Information

For Past Issues of this Newsletter
http://www.relationshipcoachinginstitute.com/newsletter/archive.htm

Our Purpose
The purpose of this newsletter is to connect, support each other, inform, and build a strong community of coaches dedicated to helping people find fulfillment in their lives and relationships.

This monthly newsletter is written for the benefit of RCI Relationship Coaches, and is available to interested others. Feel free to share this with a colleague. Your submissions and feedback are welcome!

Our Mission
To provide the tools, information and support to help singles find the love of their life and the life that they love, and to help couples co-create fulfilling and lasting Life Partnerships.

Copyright Notice
This newsletter is copyrighted and all rights are reserved. Feel free to share with others as long as our contact information and authorship is included.
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Links to Us

Relationship Coaching Institute
F`ree introductory training!
http://www.relationshipcoachinginstitute.com

BuildingYourIdealPractice.com
F`ree monthly tele-seminars!
http://www.buildingyouridealpractice.com

Conscious Dating for Singles
F`ree audio programs, e-programs, and more!
www.ConsciousDating.org

Partners in Life for Couples
F`ree audio programs, e-programs, and more!
www.PartnersInLife.org

F`ree Monthly Conscious Relationship Tele-Seminar Series
www.ConsciousRelationshipSeminars.com

F`ree Conscious Relationship Audio Programs
www.ConsciousRelationshipPodcast.com

F`ree Conscious Dating Tele-Seminar Series for Singles
www.ConsciousDatingSeminars.com

F`ree Conscious Dating Tele-Clinic for Singles
www.ConsciousDatingTeleclinic.com

F`ree Conscious Mating Tele-Seminar Series for Couples
www.ConsciousMatingSeminars.com

Member of Relationship Coaching Network
F`ree resources for singles, couples and professionals
http://www.relationshipcoachingnetwork.org

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