In this issue:

Editor- David Steele
Founder and CEO
Relationship Coaching Institute

Copyright 2005 by Relationship Coaching Institute. All rights reserved. Feel free to share with others as long as our contact information and authorship is included. U.S. Library of Congress ISSN#1530-3055.

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Announcements

1. I decided to self-publish this book, and need the lead time to gather endorsements and line up a distribution deal to get it in bookstores
   
2. This period will be used to gather your feedback and reactions to the book
   
3. The internal sales of the first 1,000 or so will help finance the printing of 5,000 or more needed for the February release to the public

For a sneak peek of 19 daily excerpts from the book, sign-up for the Conscious Dating Book Excerpts e-Program at www.consciousdating.com.

Also, check out the Introduction to Conscious Dating article below

If you would like to be among the first to receive a copy of this book, pre-orders are now being accepted at www.consciousdating.com.

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FREE TELE-SEMINAR:  
Websites Made Simple
September 7

with Marc Beneteau and Rebekah Darcy Mulhare
of BestCommerceTools.com

This seminar is intended for internet dummies but will also cover some more advanced topics (keyword popularity analysis and search-engine optimization). After attending you will be ready to start the process of optimizing your website. Pleasebe in front of the computer and connected to the internet as there will be some opportunities to view direct examples on the Internet.

This seminar will cover:

• How and why a website can help your business

• Why (almost) every self-employed professional needs a website
  
• Do your site yourself or hire a designer - the choices
  
• Web hosting and domain names - everything that you need to know
  
• What to put on your site - the overall structure and content of a good website
  
• Newsletters and auto-responders - the choices
  
• Quick and cost-effective strategies to get your website designed, hosted, and e-commerce enabled at rock-bottom prices without sacrificing quality or usability
  
• Website audio (talk to your visitors on your site - a powerful marketing tool)
  
• Digital downloads and ebooks - the ultimate money-maker
  
• Keyword popularity analysis and Search Engine Optimization (SEO) - the basics

No need to register. This seminar is FREE for subscribers of our free monthly practice-building newsletter GETTING CLIENTS

To subscribe and receive your invitation to this seminar, please visit http://www.buildingyouridealpractice.com

Please share with your colleagues!

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FREE TRAINING:  
Introduction to Relationship Coaching
Starts October 4

Learn how to coach singles, couples, and develop a successful Relationship Coaching practice, taught by RCI founder David Steele and his teaching staff.

Introduction to Relationship Coaching includes 3 one-hour tele-classes, Tuesdays, October 4, 11, and 18, 2005; 9:00am pacific/Noon eastern.

Each class includes practical information and materials you can use immediately in your practice.

Can't make our training dates/times? Each class is recorded for those unable to attend, and we also offer an ON-LINE VERSION.

Please share with your colleagues! To register or for more information, visit http://www.relationshipcoachinginstitute.com/forms/freeteleclass.htm

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Relationship Coaching
Home Study Program

Now Available

In April I gave two one-day workshops in Little Rock and Indianapolis, and recorded them both. I've edited the audio recordings to create a home study program that includes the 111-page workshop manual and a 6-CD set.

Check it out here

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Live Relationship Coaching Workshops

October 2005

David Steele will be conducting four, live, one-day relationship coaching CEU workshops for licensed mental health professionals in the following cities:

• Monday, October 17th in Chicago
• Tuesday, October 18th in Milwaukee
• Monday, October 24th in Kansas City
• Tuesday, October 25th in St. Louis

Please join us! Workshop information is available at http://www.relationshipcoachinginstitute.com/newhope

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New! Relationship Reading Recommendations

Our Relationship Reading Reccomendations are divided into 5 areas for your reading enjoyment:

1. Being Fully Committed
Commitment is the foundation of being "Partners in Life," and can be challenging!

2. Accepting Personal Responsibility
The key to mutuality and resolving any conflict

3. Taking Care of Yourself
The path to fulfillment starts with YOU

4. Telling Your Truth
Intimacy begins with honesty

5. Showing Up
Choosing and building the relationship you really want

I personally have each of these 14 books in my bookshelf and highly recommend them. Enjoy! To check them out click here

David Steele

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RCI Coach Conference Calls

Our conference calls are FREE to RCI Coaches, and are scheduled on the 1st and 3rd Tuesday of each month, 2:00 pm Pacific/ 5:00 pm Eastern.

The RCI Member Support Forum meets Wednesdays at 11:00 am pacific/ 2:00 pm Eastern. A reminder including the bridge # is sent prior to each call on our listserv.

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Welcome New RCI Coaches

The following professionals recently joined our ranks:

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Feature Article

Introduction to Conscious Dating

(From the Introduction of Conscious Dating: Finding the Love of Your Life in Today's World)

In today's society, we all want the same thing, whether we are single or married, young or old, gay or straight: to love and to be loved. The great majority of us desire a fulfilling life partnership. As social beings, we need intimacy and connection with a community of friends and family, and a committed relationship that meets our emotional, physical, and spiritual needs. As our world grows increasingly complex, personal relationships—the building blocks of our society—seem to suffer. We want to be happy and fulfilled in our most important relationships, but don’t seem to know how.

The rules for dating and mating have changed, and up until now you may have been discovering the new rules by trial and error. The good news is that in today’s world you are able to live the life that you choose. I hope this book helps you make conscious, wise, and effective relationship choices. Moreover, I sincerely hope you will "find the love of your life and the life that you love."

Regrettably, one holdover from the past is a misperception that singles are selfish, failures, inadequate, immature, unwanted, and/or unlovable. When that misperception merges with our impatience and desire for immediate gratification—an unfortunate characteristic of today's culture—many singles start out believing that the path to happiness lies in getting into a relationship as quickly as possible. Typically, after heartbreak and failure, many singles feel confused about how to make relationships work. Thus, you may hesitate to trust yourself and others. Consciously or unconsciously, you may fear commitment. Unsatisfying and painful relationship experiences breed discouragement and defensiveness. This intensifies a fear of intimacy and creates barriers to having the relationship you really want.

You are not alone. Today, there are more single people than ever before: 101 million singles in the United States, which means 46 percent of the adult population. Since 85 percent of adults marry, it is clear that the great majority of people prefer to be in a committed relationship.

Most singles today want to find their life partner, but are scared and confused, afraid of failure and perplexed about how to succeed. There is a whole growth industry providing solutions for singles, much of which is shallow, exploitive, and worthless. Our high divorce rate suggests that this process is ineffective. As a result, people are increasingly aware of the importance of making good relationship choices, of realizing that infatuation, hope, promises, and good intentions will not help them find and keep the love of their life. Singles like you seem ready and eager to learn how to have conscious, intentional, and successful committed relationships.

In Conscious Dating, I hope to help you find your life Partner efficiently and effectively. However, the quickest route to happiness is not necessarily the best route. I will give you a road map to avoid mirages, dead ends, potholes, and swamps so that you are able to go where you genuinely want and need to be.

Finding the love of your life in today's world means being the pioneer of your destiny. When it comes to relationship choices, there are no guarantees or predictable outcomes, despite romantic promises and fantasies. Conscious Dating can help you have the life and relationship that you want by showing you how to make intentional, conscious relationship choices. In these chapters you will learn more about who you really are and how to get what you want in your life. You have many choices. You are not bound by the traditions of the past. You are free to choose the life and relationships that you really want.

About This Book

In this book you will discover how to avoid the many pitfalls and traps that can hold you back in your journey to find your life partner. You will learn effective principles, tools, and information you can use to find the life and relationship that you really want.

Conscious Dating will introduce you to many innovative concepts and tools to help you make conscious, sustainable relationship choices. The first three chapters address "The Mystery of Relationships,” “What Do We Really Want” in relationships, and "Why 'Dating' Doesn't Work."

The remainder of the book is organized around the Ten Principles of Conscious Dating. Following an explanation of each principle, you will find tools, exercises, encouragement, and concrete tips for applying each principle to life and relationships.

The final two chapters cover how to develop a "Conscious Dating Plan" to find a life partner, and how to use the "pre-commitment" stage of a relationship to determine if a relationship is a good long-term choice.

Within each chapter, you will find the stories of real singles who have implemented these dating practices in their own lives. As you follow the relationship journeys of the conscious singles in this book and learn the principles and tools for conscious dating, I hope you, too, will gainclarity about who you are and how you can get what you really want in your life and relationships.

Being single is truly an opportunity. Today, a whole new world begins. You are the pioneer of your own life. Let's begin our journey together.

To purchase this book, after October 1st visit www.ConsciousDating.com
(Pre-orders are now being accepted)

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Invitations

Invitation #1
I invite you to share your announcements, wins, coaching or practice tips with the rest of us. Be visible! Let's connect!  Send them to me at David@RelationshipCoachingInstitute.com

Invitation #2
I invite you to share this newsletter with a colleague.  There is a tremendous need for our services, and we need to work together. Relationship Coaching is in its infancy, and we must collaborate to build our market niche and position as a resource of wide appeal for anyone who wants a successful relationship.

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Invitation #3
I invite you to listen to the following introductory recordings 24 hours a day at your convenience by visiting http://www.relationshipcoachinginstitute.com/audio/index.htm (some are available by telephone)

• Introduction to Relationship coaching
• Finding the Love of Your Life AND The Life That You Love
• Conscious Dating for Relationship Success
• All about RCI
• Practice Building Intensive (sample conference call)
• Radical Thoughts on Converting Prospects to Clients
• How do Design Compelling Marketing Strategies that Attract Clients
• And more!

Invitation #4
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Invitation #5
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How do you like our newsletter? Your feedback is welcome!  Until next time....

Best regards,
David Steele, MA, LMFT
Relationship Coach
CEO and Founder of Relationship Coaching Institute
David@RelationshipCoachingInstitute.com
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Telephone:  888.268.4074

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Our Purpose
The purpose of this newsletter is to connect, support each other, inform, and build a strong community of coaches dedicated to helping people find fulfillment in their lives and relationships.

This monthly newsletter is written for the benefit of RCI Relationship Coaches, and is available to interested others. Feel free to share this with a colleague. Your submissions and feedback are welcome!

Our Mission
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