8-Week Get Clients Full Practice Training starts July 13th
Free seminar July 7th- “Marketing With E-Programs”
RCI Conference Calls
Conscious Dating Book Published Soon!
Relationship Coaching Home Study Program Ready Soon
1. FREE TRAINING BEGINS JUNE 7TH
Learn how to coach singles, couples, and develop a
successful Relationship Coaching practice, taught by RCI
founder David Steele and his teaching staff.
"Introduction to Relationship Coaching"- 3 one-hour
teleclasses, Tuesdays, April 5, 12, and 19, 2005;
9:00am pacific/Noon eastern.
-June 7: Class #1: How to Coach Singles
-June 14: Class #2: How to Coach Couples
-June 21: Class #3: How to Build a Successful Relationship
Coaching Practice
Each class includes practical information and materials you
can use immediately in your practice.
Please share with your colleagues! To register, visit
http://www.relationshipcoachinginstitute.com/forms/freeteleclass.htm
Can't make our training dates/times? Each class is recorded
for those unable to attend, and we also offer an ON-LINE
VERSION.
For more info visit
http://www.relationshipcoachinginstitute.com/forms/freeteleclass.htm
INTERNET MARKETING: A THREE PRONGED ATTACK ON A 7 FIGURE INCOME
with Tom Antion, professional speaker, author, and Internet marketing expert
Internet Marketing can be a frustrating and confusing subject. Tom
Antion makes it simple and doable, while teaching you how to make
passive income based on your own expertise.
This seminar will cover:
WEB SITES
==>How to build a website that keeps them coming back and spending money
==>5 things you need to know how to do and why
==>Simple tips to get visitors
==>Search engine secrets
E-ZINES
==>Why you have to have an ezine
==>How to structure and write an ezine (you will even get a template to use right away)
==>How to get subscribers
PRODUCT DEVELOPMENT
==>The easiest and most powerful products to develop
==>How a Free product can make you money
==>How to work once and get paid, paid, paid, paid, paid, paid......
No need to register. This seminar is FREE for subscribers
of our free monthly practice-building newsletter GETTING
CLIENTS
To subscribe and receive your invitation to this seminar,
please visit http://www.buildingyouridealpractice.com
-Supplemental audio recordings for missed classes, more info
-E-version of the "How to Get Clients Toolkit."
A past participant comments:
"Getting Clients is not as easy as it should be! This
program helped me learn the skills I needed to successfully
fill my practice, and provided invaluable support & guidance for implementing these skills in my business."
-- Tera McHugh, Life Coach, Castaic, CA
Please join us!
Wednesdays, July 13th– August 31st
10:00am pacific / 1:00pm eastern / 6:00pm UK
OR-
4:00pm pacific / 7:00pm eastern / 12 midnight UK
For more information and to register, please visit
http://www.buildingyouridealpractice.com/fullpracticetraining.html
(Members of RCI and BYIP register by e-mailing
Brenda@relationshipcoachinginstitute.com )
Marketing with e-programs is a great way to establish
yourself as an expert, attract prospects for your practice,
and turn prospects into clients and customers.
This seminar will cover:
- How to create and market your own e-programs
- How to turn just about anything you have ever written into
an e-program
- How to find ideas for your e-program
- How to structure each day's email for your e-program
- The one thing you MUST NOT do when creating an e-program
- The one thing you MUST DO to make your e-program
profitable.
- How to over-deliver to your prospects
- How to keep prospects involved when the e-program is over
even if they have not become a client or customer YET
Both David Steele and Jeff Herring are experienced veterans
with using e-programs to attract prospects, clients and
profits. Let them show you how you can get in on this form
of "automatic marketing." Please join us!
No need to register. This seminar is FREE for subscribers
of our free monthly practice-building newsletter GETTING
CLIENTS
To subscribe and receive your invitation to this seminar,
please visit http://www.buildingyouridealpractice.com
~ June 7; Singles Coaching with Lynne Michelson
~ June 21; Couples Coaching with Linda Marshall
~ EVERY WEDNESDAY; RCI Member Support Tele-Forum
with David Steele
Our conference calls are FREE to RCI Coaches, and fall on
the 1st and 3rd Tuesday of each month, 2:00pm pacific/5pm
eastern. The RCI Member Support Forum meets Wednesdays at
11am pacific/2pm eastern. A reminder including the bridge #
is sent prior to each call on our listserv.
The cover is designed, the editor is hard at work, and this book
should be finally ready for distribution by October 15th.
Seven years in the making, I'm very pleased with how it's shaping up.
My goal is for this book to be THE definitive book for today's singles. The publicist is planning an official launch for Valentine's Day accompanied by an intense 3 month period of promotion. I expect to be very, very, very busy January through March or longer.
The website will be redone soon at http://www.consciousdating.com so
check it out now for the “before” version and in a month or so for the “after.” If you haven't already, visit this website and sign up for the e-program of chapter excerpts, and listen to the new Conscious Dating audio programs (not available elsewhere).
7. RELATIONSHIP COACHING HOME STUDY COURSE AVAILABLE SOON
I gave two one-day workshops last month in Little Rock and Indianapolis, and recorded them both. Since then, I've been editing the audio recordings to create a home study program that includes the 111-page workshop manual and a 6-CD set.
Stay tuned, this Relationship Coaching Home Study Course will be
available by the end of June. Watch for an announcement in your e-mail inbox.
I posted a 37 minute introductory audio clip at-
http://www.relationshipcoachinginstitute.com/CoachingForSinglesCouples.htm
Including-
- From Couples Therapist to Relationship Coach
- Five Stages of Relationship Coaching
- The Case for Relationship Coaching:
Facts About Relationships in Today's World
Check it out!
Be The Chooser
by David Steele
"We choose our joys and sorrows long before we experience them."
-- Khalil Gibran
Our life works and can be full of joy when we make effectivechoices. Our life can be full of sorrow if we make ineffective choices. Chooser vs. Victim
As a child, choices were made for me and I had little power over what happened to me. This is normal for children, but when we take this attitude as adults I call it being a "victim"
The opposite of being a victim is to be "The Chooser"
The concept of choice is remarkable, and that we have choices I consider to be a fact. Though in my life, I've
forgotten this fact many times when I was impulsive or
reactive.
I find it challenging to take responsibility for my failures and
pain as being the result of my own choices. I want to blame my
boss, my ex-wife, the other driver, my parents; and for awhile
I did.
I've had many wake-up calls that acting out of ignorance or
impulse doesn't absolve me of responsibility for making a
bad choice.
When I was sixteen, a new driver, and got a ticket for making
a U-turn across a double-yellow line I told the cop honestly
that I didn't know it was against the law, and felt it grossly
unfair that he ticketed me anyway.
I fought the ticket in traffic court and lost. My only
defense was "I didn't know! I didn't mean to break the law!" The judge told me ignorance was not an excuse for breaking
the law. That was one of my first wake-up calls that as an
adult, I would be held accountable for my choices even if
they were unconscious. Scary thought.
We live in a victim culture. It's usually the other guy's
fault that we go to war, get into a car accident, lose our
money in stocks, get a divorce. While victim-hood might make
us feel better and in the right, it also makes us helpless
and perpetuates our problems.
The Law of Attraction
What do you want? A fulfilling life and relationship? A loving family? Success in your work? Peace in the world?
I've learned that to get what you want you must BE THE
CHOOSER.
Being the chooser means taking the initiative to create what
you want, taking full responsibility for your outcomes, and
making your choices mindful of their long-term consequences.
There is a law of the universe as powerful as the law of
gravity that helps choosers and brings suffering on victims.
It's called the "Law of Attraction." Just like "what goes up
must come down;" "what is inside shows up on the outside,""energy follows attention," and "what you believe you can
achieve."
If you believe you don't have a choice, you won't.
If you shove responsibility for your choices and outcomes
outside of yourself, the law of attraction will try to teach
you to take responsibility by repeating the lesson over and
over until you get it.
This is the origin of crime, war, and most other sources of
human suffering.
I want to be happy and fulfilled. I want you to be happy and
fulfilled. I've learned that happiness comes from within, by
taking responsibility as an adult for my choices and
outcomes. I've learned that I need to be "The Chooser" in my
life and my heartfelt desire is that I can inspire you to be
The Chooser as well.
Be The Chooser
We have the knowledge and technology to create a wonderful
life for ourselves and society for our children. Most of our
social problems, such as crime, war, poverty, violence, disease,
divorce, homelessness, and more, is the result of ineffective
choices. Unfortunately, these social problems will continue
as long as people believe they don't have a choice about them.
Choosers know what they want and how to get it.
In charge of their lives, Choosers take responsibility for
what happens. Being a Chooser takes a certain amount of
confidence and effort, but anyone can be one! Being The
Chooser means taking initiative for your outcomes: you are
in charge of creating what you want in life. You do not
restrict yourself to what or who chooses you.
Very often, we are not aware of the range of choices available
to us. We are often unaware of our power to choose, and of the
true power of our choices. We might make choices unconsciously,
reactively or impulsively. We might be unaware of the long-term
consequences of our choices.
A.I.M. To Be The Chooser
Step 1: Be AWARE that you have choices
You are never stuck! You always have choices, even if you
don't know what your choices are. Don't allow impulse or
lack of information to result in a poor choice.
Step 2: IDENTIFY your choices
Always assume there are more choices than you are aware of.
Seek to identify a variety of the choices available to you,
mindful that “you don't know what you don't know.” Identify
productive choices and don't settle for unproductive
choices.
Step 3: MAKE productive choices
Use all the information available to you to make the best
choice possible to achieve the outcome you desire. Evaluate
a choice based upon the likely long-term consequences of
that choice.
If you want to be the Chooser, here are some things you have control over and can DO (remember- CRAPGAP):
BE CREATIVE: Seek new ideas and opportunities beyond the
immediate past and present
BE A RISK TAKER: Accept rejection and failure as part of
life, and don't take it personally
BE ASSERTIVE: Ask for what you want, and say "no" to what
you don't want
BE PROACTIVE: Don't merely react to events, or habitually
wait for things to happen
BE GOAL-ORIENTED: Clearly define and vigorously pursue your
goals
ASSUME ABUNDANCE: Believe there will always be plenty of
opportunities and resources
BE POSITIVE: Always anticipate success
“Your life is the sum result of all the choices you make,
both consciously and unconsciously.
If you can control the process of choosing, you can take
control of all aspects of your life.
You can find the freedom that comes from being in charge of yourself.”
I invite you to share your announcements, wins, coaching or practice tips with the rest of us. Be visible! Let's connect! Send them to me at
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Finding The Love Of Your Life AND The Life That You Love
Conscious Dating For Relationship Success
All About RCI
Practice Building Intensive (sample conference call)
Radical Thoughts on Converting Prospects to Clients
How To Design Compelling Marketing Strategies That Attracts Clients
And more!
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How do you like our newsletter? Your feedback is welcome! Until next time....
Best regards,
David Steele, MA, LMFT
Relationship Coach
CEO and Founder of Relationship Coaching Institute
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