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Relationship Coaching News
March 2005

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In this issue:

  1. Announcements
  2. Welcome New RCI Coaches
  3. Congrats
  4. Feature Article: "Getting What You Want vs. What You Deserve"
  5. Invitations

Announcements

  1. Free Training Begins February 1st
  2. New! Free bridge lines for RCI members
  3. New! Got questions? Instant chat feature on RCI website
  4. Free Tele-seminar March 2nd- "PR Strategies that Really Work"
  5. 90-Day Practice Building Intensive begins April 7th
  6. Free "Miracle of Connection" teleclass series
  7. The Best Couples Workshop in the World
  8. RCI Conference Calls
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1. FREE TRAINING BEGINS APRIL 5TH

Learn how to coach singles, couples, and develop a
successful Relationship Coaching practice, taught by RCI
founder David Steele and his teaching staff.

"Introduction to Relationship Coaching"- 3 one-hour
teleclasses, Tuesdays, April 5, 12, and 19, 2005;
9:00am pacific/Noon eastern.

-April 5: Class #1: How to Coach Singles
-April 12: Class #2: How to Coach Couples
-April 19: Class #3: How to Build a Successful Relationship
Coaching Practice

Each class includes practical information and materials you
can use immediately in your practice.

Please share with your colleagues! Register here.

Can't make our training dates/times? Each class is recorded for those unable to attend, and we also offer an ON-LINE VERSION.

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2. FREE BRIDGE LINES FOR RCI MEMBERS

RCI members now have access to unlimited bridge lines for your teleclasses and conference calls. To schedule, simply e-mail

Non-members can use our bridge lines for $10.00 per hour by going to our Resource Catalogue

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3. NEW! INSTANT CHAT FEATURE ON RCI WEBSITE

Got a question? When our webmaster completes installation in the next few days, members and non-members will be able to connect with us live (via text chat window) when we are online, and can leave a message if we are offline. Cool!

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4. FREE TELE-SEMINAR WEDNESDAY MARCH 2ND

PR STRATEGIES THAT REALLY WORK
with Steven Van Yoder, author of
"Get Slightly Famous"

Wednesday, March 2, 2005
9:00am pacific / Noon eastern

Some PR strategies can pay off quickly and effectively,
while others are a waste of your time and money. Join us as
Steven gives you the straight talk about what really works
and what doesn't to "Get Slightly Famous."
Don't miss this seminar- put it on your calendar today!

No need to register. This seminar is FREE for subscribers
of our free monthly practice-building newsletter GETTING
CLIENTS

To subscribe and receive your invitation to this seminar, please visit http://www.buildingyouridealpractice.com

Please share with your colleagues!

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5. 90-DAY PRACTICE BUILDING INTENSIVE STARTS APRIL 7TH

This popular 90-day program has helped hundreds of private
practice professionals build their ideal practice.

- Weekly conference call on Thursdays, 9am pacific/noon
eastern, April 7th - June 23rd

- Recorded programs available by telephone and internet
audio if you miss a conference call

- Step-by-step program with all the detailed information
needed to complete each step

- Online community for support and feedback

- Led by David Steele and a support team of
"Apprentices"

For more information please visit
http://www.buildingyouridealpractice.com/practicebuildingintensive.html
(Members of RCI and BYIP register by e-mailing )

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6. Free MIRACLE OF CONNECTION TELECLASS SERIES

Sponsored by Relationship Coaching Institute Featuring Hedy Schleifer

Program #1: Growing Our Passion
Recording now available for registrants

Program #2: Embracing Our Differences
Wednesday, March 9, 2005 10:00am pacific/1:00pm eastern

Program #3: Achieving Fulfillment
Thursday, March 24, 2005 10:00am pacific/1:00pm eastern

Some participant comments so far-

"THIS IS THE BEST CLASS I'VE EVER ATTENDED!"

"Now I know why everyone adores Hedy so much. Today's call was simply magical. I had goosebumps the entire time."

To listen to the audio recording of Program #1, and to access the other two seminars in this series, register here.

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7. THE BEST COUPLES WORKSHOP IN THE WORLD

"Adventures in Intimacy" is conducted all over the world by Hedy and Yumi Schleifer, and I can state with confidence, it is the best workshop for couples that I know.

Once again, I am sponsoring Hedy and Yumi to give their workshop for couples in my area, Northern California, April 15-17, 2005. Maggie and I will be there too!

If you are familiar with Hedy and Yumi, you know how special they are and how powerful their work is. What you may not know is that they have radically revised their workshop far beyond their "Imago" roots. Listening to Hedy's "Miracle of Connection" audio program will make that very clear.

If you are in a relationship, it is worth whatever it takes to attend this workshop with your partner.

More information here.

If you know any couples who might be interested, please pass this along to them.

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8. RCI COACH CONFERENCE CALLS

  • March 1; Singles Coaching with Lynne Michelson
  • March 15; Couples Coaching with Linda Marshall
  • EVERY WEDNESDAY; RCI Member Support Tele-Forum with David Steele

Our conference calls are FREE to RCI Coaches, and fall on the 1st and 3rd Tuesday of each month, 2:00pm pacific/5pm eastern. The RCI Member Support Forum meets Wednesdays at 11am pacific/2pm eastern. A reminder including the bridge # is sent prior to each call on our listserv.

Welcome New RCI Coaches!

The following professionals recently joined our ranks:

Cindy Briolotta, MA, Brooklyn, NY
Tammi Christie, Brooklyn, NY
Muriel Clifford, Seattle, WA
Lawrence Friedman, MBA, Bellevue, WA
Randy Hurlburt, MA, San Diego, CA
Pat Moss, MA, Augusta, GA
Sandy Rohr, MA, Anaheim, CA
Alan Stafford, MBA, Concord, NC
Kathy Stafford, Concord, NC
Dinah Temple, Colonial Heights, VA
Geri Terleski, Estacada, OR
Maggie Vlazny, LCSW, Danbury, CT

Getting What You Want vs. What You Deserve

by David Steele

"Life doesn't give you what you need;
it gives you what you deserve."
-- Jim Rohn

I've always been fascinated by this challenging statement by motivational speaker Jim Rohn, and when I've shared it with others I'm often taken aback by their protests-

"Nobody 'deserves' cancer!"
"I didn't deserve to lose my job!"
"My sister didn't deserve to be widowed with three young kids!"

...and so on.

Well. yes, "stuff" happens in life that is out of our control and we feel like we didn't deserve, but a whole lot of stuff that, at first glance, might seem random, actually is a result of our choices.

Call it "Radical Personal Responsibility." See article

I believe that the important principle here is that as adults, our life is largely self-determined, and we must take responsibility for our choices and outcomes.

While I would not have agreed at the time, I take responsibility for being divorced twice. Being the child of divorce, and valuing Life Partnership as highly as I do, it is painful to acknowledge my responsibility in being divorced.

I can't be happy or successful if I am a helpless victim of circumstance. If I am aware of how I caused my divorce, I can learn how to have a lasting relationship. Taking full responsibility for my outcomes, though challenging, frees me to be successful.

Sure, random bad stuff happens to good people, however, "Getting what you deserve" means to me:

-- Ignorance or unconsciousness is not an excuse. I am responsible for my choices and their outcomes

-- Success and happiness are not entitlements. Life doesn't work the way I want, need, or expect

-- You don't know what you don't know

-- Therefore, I must take nothing for granted, and put effort into becoming more conscious and continuing to learn and grow

I've had lots of wake-up calls to this point of view, however, it took me two divorces and crashing my sailboat into the rocks of Alcatraz (I always seem to learn the hard way!) to finally "get" that I needed to give up my ego-driven illusion of control and realize that I need to be a humble student of Life.

"Life doesn't give you what you need; it gives you what you deserve," while controversial and challenging, has my vote to be the 11th "dirty secret of happiness." See 10 Dirty Secrets of Happiness

Some parting thoughts-

"Direction determines destination."
-- Jim Rohn
"If you do what you've always done, you'll get what you've always gotten."
-- Anthony Robbins
"There are only 3 colors, 10 digits, and 7 notes; its what we do with them that's important."
-- Jim Rohn

I welcome your comments on this topic!

©2005 by Relationship Coaching Institute / All rights reserved

Invitations:

  • I invite you to share your announcements, wins, coaching or practice tips with the rest of us. Be visible! Let's connect! Send them to me at
  • I invite you to share this newsletter with a colleague. There is a tremendous need for our services, and we need to work together. Relationship Coaching is in its infancy, and we must collaborate to build our market niche and position as a resource of wide appeal for anyone who wants a successful relationship. To pass the word about us to a friend or colleague, please visit http://www.buildingyouridealpractice.com/tellafriend.html
  • I invite you to join our on-line community of helping professionals.
  • I invite you to listen to the following introductory recordings 24 hours a day at your convenience online. (some are also available by telephone):
    • Introduction to Relationship Coaching
    • Finding The Love Of Your Life AND The Life That You Love
    • Conscious Dating For Relationship Success
    • All About RCI
    • Practice Building Intensive (sample conference call)
    • Radical Thoughts on Converting Prospects to Clients
    • How To Design Compelling Marketing Strategies That Attracts Clients
    • And more!
  • I invite you to get the support you need to be successful in your practice. We are available for information, training, ideas, mentor coaching, etc.
  • If you are a coach or therapist who received this from a colleague, I invite you to visit our web site and contact us for information on joining us and becoming a RelationshipCoachingInstitute Relationship Coach. Ask about getting a free copy of our introductory audiotape, and about our free teleclasses.
  • To subscribe to this newsletter, our newsletter for SINGLES, or our newsletter for COUPLES, or our PRACTICE BUILDING newsletter, see this page.
  • For a description of RCI relationship coaching trainings, schedule, and enrollment info, visit http://www.relationshipcoachinginstitute.com

How do you like our newsletter? Your feedback is welcome! Until next time....

Best regards,
David Steele, MA, LMFT
Relationship Coach
CEO and Founder of Relationship Coaching Institute

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