Free Tele-Seminar December 1st- "The Enrollment Conversation"
90-Day Practice Building Intensive starts January 6th
8-Week "How to Get Clients Full Practice Training" starts January 5th
Free "Miracle of Connection" teleclass series
RCI Conference Calls
------------------------------------------------------------- 1. FREE TRAINING BEGINS DECEMBER 7TH
Learn how to coach singles, couples, and develop a successful Relationship Coaching practice, taught by RCI founder David Steele and his teaching staff.
"Introduction to Relationship Coaching"- 3 one-hour teleclasses,
Tuesdays, December 7, 14, 21 2004;
9:00am pacific/Noon eastern.
-Dec 7: Class #1: How to Coach Singles
-Dec 14: Class #2: How to Coach Couples
-Dec 21: Class #3: How to Build a Successful Relationship Coaching Practice
Each class includes practical information and materials you can use immediately in your practice.
Supplemental audio recordings for missed classes, more info
E-version of the "How to Get Clients Toolkit."
A past participant comments:
"Getting Clients is not as easy as it should be! This program helped me learn the skills I needed to successfully fill my practice, and provided invaluable support & guidance for implementing these skills in my business."
Tera McHugh, Life Coach
Castaic, CA
Please join us!
Wednesdays, January 5th - February 23rd
3:00pm pacific / 6:00pm eastern
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---------------------------------------------------------------- 5. FREE MIRACLE OF CONNECTION TELECLASS SERIES
I'm excited! I persuaded Hedy Schleifer to conduct a series of three teleclasses to help promote her next "Adventures in Intimacy" workshop for couples that I'm sponsoring April 2005 in Northern California.
Teleclass #1: Growing Our Passion
Wednesday, January 12, 2005 10:00am pacific/1:00pm eastern
Hedy will cover the initial "Romance" stage of relationship and how to keep the initial excitement alive over time.
Teleclass #2: Embracing Our Differences
Friday, February 11, 2005 10:00am pacific/1:00pm eastern
Hedy will cover the "Power Struggle" stage of relationship and how to use our differences to deepen intimacy and connection.
Teleclass #3: Achieving Fulfillment
Thursday, March 24, 2005 10:00am pacific/1:00pm eastern
Hedy will cover the "Conscious Relationship" stage; what it looks like and how to get there.
~ December 7; Singles Coaching with Lynne Michelson
~ December 21; Couples Coaching with Linda Marshall
~ EVERY WEDNESDAY; RCI Member Support Tele-Forum with David Steele
Our conference calls are FREE to RCI Coaches, and fall on the 1st and 3rd Tuesday of each month, 2:00pm pacific/5pm eastern. The RCI Member Support Forum meets Wednesdays at 11am pacific/2pm eastern. A reminder including the bridge # is sent prior to each call on our listserv.
Welcome New RCI Coaches!
The following professionals recently joined our ranks:
Heidi Hayden, MA, Flower Mound, TX
Jeff Herring, MS, MFT, Tallahassee, FL
Theresa Knox, LaCrosse, WI
Janis McCann, PhD, Ojai, CA
Pamela Simmons, MA, LPC, Garland, TX
THANK YOU for telling your colleagues about RCI!
Congrats to our latest certified relationship coaches:
Douglas Brady (Boulder, CO)- Certified relationship coach for singles
Tonja Weimer (Greenville, SC)- Master Relationship coach for singles
CONGRATS TO Jeff Herring (Tallahassee, FL) for his success as a syndicated relationship columnist.
Last week I was kicking back reading my favorite section of my daily San Jose Mercury News (the comics, of course) when I noticed a weekly relationship column that I've seen before with tips for couples handling anger, written by "Jeff Herring."
I thought... "Hmm, that name sounds familiar... he's an RCI coach!"
And a modest one at that. Check out http://jeffscolumn.com and prepare to be impressed with Jeff's accomplishments.
CONGRATS TO Annie Vance (Simi Valley, CA) for passing the National Licensing Examination in Marriage Family Therapy. She writes "This means that I can now practice in Hawaii, when I choose to move back."
CONGRATS TO Sandee Abern (Buffalo Grove, IL) who writes:
"I AM SO EXCITED and I wanted to let all of you know the good news... I AM NOW THE HOST OF MY VERY OWN RADIO SHOW!! And, here's the very BEST part...my husband, my Mr. Wonderful, Clint Wolf, will be co-hosting it with me! The show will be called: LET'S TALK RELATIONSHIPS with SANDEE and CLINT. We will be discussing all types of relationships including singles, couples, sibling, parental, business, friends and the issues surrounding them. If it is relationship related...we will discuss it!
We will be on the air every Wednesday afternoon from 3:00pm to 4:00pm CST on station 1410AM, a local Chicago station. But...you can all listen because it is simulcast at www.WRMN1410.com."
YOU GO, SANDEE! :-)
CONGRATS TO: Nan Eienarson (Ontario, Canada) who writes:
"I just got word that I'll be having a monthly (to start) advice column in our regional newspaper. It will be entitled "Ask Coach Nan".
I "pitched" the concept of a local advice columnist to the editor-in-chief, who in turn put me in touch with the Community Editor. She asked for some samples of questions and my responses. I used some examples of issues from clients (similar to what we do in our RCI newsletters). I told them I would do it without a fee, in exchange for advertising my own practice and my book at the end of each column. They will also use my business e-mail address for people to contact me directly, so I'll have a built-in contact list for potential newsletter and/or coaching prospects. They want me to go in to get my picture taken for the column, which will also enhance my community image and make the column more personal/personable. Once the column is established, I plan to go to the local cable channel and our local country& music radio station for interviews about the column (and my practice), and perhaps pitch to them the concept of a phone-in show. If nothing else, the publicity will lend great credibility for generating audiences to RESTS workshops down the road. Who knows what else might follow?"
Our coaches are certainly committed, talented, and making things happen! It is my honor to be part of this community that is making such a difference in the lives and relationships of others.
Have a win you would like to share? Any graduates from your RCI coaching 'find the love of their life and the life that they love?' Please pass it on and we'll celebrate it!
The Communication Map
by David Steele
As a therapist and coach helping couples with serious Relationship challenges, one of my first and highest priorities often is functional communication.
Conflict and its painful consequences is a common presenting problem of couples seeking support for their relationship, and I learned early in my training that attempting to simply mediate their disagreements or solve their problems was futile and ineffective.
For years I tried different models for teaching and facilitating effective communication. Most were too complicated for the couple to implement at home, and all were too limited in their application. Some required weeks, even months of classes and workshops that I knew my couples wouldn't attend, as they needed something to help them function NOW. I wanted a communication tool that was so easy to learn and practical that I could teach it to them in ONE SESSION and the couple could immediately implement it at home, and addressed some areas that I believed were critical to good relationships.
Too much to ask for? I thought so. I gave up my search for outside solutions and just started doing my own thing with my couples. After a few years of trying different ideas, taping myself working with couples, and refining a complicated mess into a concise package of tools and concepts, the "Communication Map" was born.
The Communication Map is a foundational tool for addressing problems in a relationship. By "foundational" I mean it will help the couple communicate and resolve issues effectively, so that other relationship building tools and skills can be learned and practiced. It is a good place to start with couples in conflict.
There are two primary areas addressed by The Communication Map:
1) Relationship Attitudes "Attitudes" are beliefs, both conscious and unconscious, that highly influence behavior. Attitude precedes outcome. Unproductive relationship attitudes must be addressed and changed. There a some (I believe) critical relationship attitudes necessary to a successful relationship that must be learned and adopted.
2) Relationship Skills We are not born with the skills needed to have a successful relationship, and if we don't learn them in our family growing up, we must learn them as adults. No-one can be successful at a task without the necessary skills.
QUESTION: How do you, as a Relationship Professional, address your clients' relationship skills deficits and unproductive attitudes?
ANSWER: Teach them The Communication Map
It's a place to start, anyway. All you know about this couple is what they tell you and what you observe. You can't accurately know their relationship attitudes and skills and what -really- goes on when they are alone, so you need a foundation to build upon with them. The first priority is FUNCTIONING; then you can get to the good stuff.
QUESTION: How can you learn The Communication Map?
ANSWER: By listening to a 40 minute audio program and printing out the form using the link below.
I'm very pleased to share this relationship tool with you as my gift and sincerely hope it makes a difference for you and your clients.
This is a small example of the tools we teach for coaching singles and couples at Relationship Coaching Institute.
INVITATIONS:
If you like The Communication Map, please share it with your colleagues.
If you are interested in Relationship Coaching Institute programs for relationship coaching training, certification, marketing and practice building support, please visit http://www.RelationshipCoachingInstitute.com or call us toll free at 888-268-4074
If you received this from a colleague and wish to subscribe to our free monthly Relationship Coaching News for cutting-edge relationship coaching information.
I invite you to join our free "Introduction to Relationship Coaching" teleclass series. Class #1 covers "How to Coach Singles," Class #2 "How to Coach Couples," and Class #3 "How to Build a Successful Practice."
Check out our Free Monthly Practice Building Tele-Seminar Series, free "How to Get Clients" e-book and audio program and other practice building information at http://www.BuildingYourIdealPractice.com
To download the communication map, RIGHT-CLICK HERE(left-clicking will simply open it, but not save it), select "Save Target As" and save to your desktop or another convenient location on our computer.
Enjoy!
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I invite you to share this newsletter with a colleague. There is a tremendous need for our services, and we need to work together. Relationship Coaching is in its infancy, and we must collaborate to build our market niche and position as a resource of wide appeal for anyone who wants a successful relationship. To pass the word about us to a friend or colleague, please visit http://www.buildingyouridealpractice.com/tellafriend.html
Finding The Love Of Your Life AND The Life That You Love
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All About RCI
Practice Building Intensive (sample conference call)
Radical Thoughts on Converting Prospects to Clients
How To Design Compelling Marketing Strategies That Attracts Clients
And more!
I invite you to get the support you need to be successful in your practice. We are available for information, training, ideas, mentor coaching, etc.
If you are a coach or therapist who received this from a colleague, I invite you to visit our web site and contact us for information on joining us and becoming a RelationshipCoachingInstitute Relationship Coach. Ask about getting a free copy of our introductory audiotape, and about our free teleclasses.
To subscribe to this newsletter, our newsletter for SINGLES, or our newsletter for COUPLES, or our PRACTICE BUILDING newsletter, see this page.
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How do you like our newsletter? Your feedback is welcome! Until next time....
Best regards,
David Steele, MA, LMFT
Relationship Coach
CEO and Founder of Relationship Coaching Institute
The purpose of this newsletter is to connect, support each other, inform, and build a strong community of coaches dedicated to helping people find fulfillment in their lives and relationships.
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Our Mission: To provide the tools, information and support to help singles find the love of their life and the life that they love, and to help couples co-create fulfilling and lasting Life Partnerships.
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