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1. FREE TRAINING FOR COACH U BEGINS SEPT. 9th
Exclusive for Coach U students and grads! Learn how to coach
singles, couples, and develop a successful Relationship Coaching
practice, taught by RCI founder David Steele and his teaching
staff.
"Introduction to Relationship Coaching"-
3 one-hour teleclasses, Tuesdays, September 9, 16, and 23;
10:00am pacific/1:00pm eastern.
September 9: Class #1: How to Coach Singles
September 16: Class #2: How to Coach Couples
September 23: Class #3: How to Build a Successful Relationship
Coaching Practice
Each class includes practical information and materials you
can use immediately in your practice.
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2. DISC INDRA TRAINING
“I completed the Disc Indra training with Vicki Simmons. She is
delightful and very knowledgeable. It is a terrific assessment
tool and the training is well worth the time and money.” –
Jackie Black, Ph.D.
Become certified to use the DiSC “In-Depth Relationship
Assessment,” an excellent, brand new relationship assessment tool
for singles and couples in only four tele-classes. A MUST for
relationship coaches!
(Note: this training is currently exclusively for RCI coaches)
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3. FREE TELE-SEMINAR- EFFECTIVE WEBSITE DESIGN
Discover how to design a website that:
- Is attractive, clear and purposeful
- Attracts prospective clients
- Helps convert prospects to clients
- Generates passive income
Presented by David Steele and Ken Donaldson
September 10th; 9am pacific/Noon eastern.
This seminar is FREE to subscribers of their monthly newsletter
“How to Get Clients.”
~ September 2; Singles Coaching with Laurie Cameron
~ September 9; Practice Development with Ken Donaldson
~ September 16; Couples Coaching with Linda Marshall
~ EVERY MONDAY; RCI Member Support Tele-Forum with David Steele
(no meeting Sept. 1st- Labor Day)
Our conference calls are FREE to RCI Coaches, and fall on the
1st, 2nd, and 3rd Tuesday of each month, 2:00pm pacific/5pm
eastern. The RCI Member Support Forum meets Mondays at 3pm
eastern.
Welcome New RCI Coaches!
The following coaches joined our ranks this past month:
Carole Allen, London, United Kingdom
Jane Bourcet, MA, British Columbia, Canada
Rayna Litchen, MSW, Ontario, Canada
Marianna Morris, MA, Richmond, CA
Debra Ramsdell, Bozeman, MT
Karen Rothenberg, MA, New York, NY
Shilo Shannon, Ontario, Canada
Leonard Smith, Ph.D., Falls Church, VA
David Stoddard, Reno, NV
THANK YOU for telling your colleagues about RCI!
Congrats!
CONGRATS TO the following RCI Coaches for achieving certification
this past quarter:
MASTER RELATIONSHIP COACH (singles and couples)
Layne Cutright, San Diego, CA
Paul Cutright, San Diego, CA
Marilyn Moore, Minneapolis, MN
MASTER RELATIONSHIP COACH FOR SINGLES
Lynn Hagin, San Clemente, CA
Soraya Khalili, San Jose, CA
Michelle Zelig, Victoria, Australia
CERTIFIED RELATIONSHIP COACH FOR SINGLES
Seantelle Guillory, Oakland, CA
Linda Lovejoy, St. Petersburg, FL
Deborah Roth, New York, NY
CONGRATS TO Linda Lovejoy (St. Petersburg, FL) who writes:
“I am so excited I could just bust..... My life and relationship
coaching practice has gone international and am debuting my new
website The Dating Clinic.
I am also celebrating my new syndicated column "In Pursuit of
Happiness" hosted by Family Content.
I just was selected to start a new syndicated column on
relationships in Australia. My new column (yet to be named) will
be debuting in September 2003.”
Linda's new website and newsletter are very well done, and great
examples of using RCI content for effective marketing.
“Boy, things are really getting wild! I was quoted in the Sunday
Boston Globe, and I am going to be on the evening news in early
September. Woo!Hoo!”
CONGRATS TO Paul and Layne Cutright (San Diego, CA) for launching
their new book and audio program YOU'RE NEVER UPSET FOR THE
REASON YOU THINK: THE CURE FOR THE COMMON UPSET.
Our coaches are certainly committed, talented, and making things happen! It is my honor to be part of this community that is making such a difference in the lives and
relationships of others.
Have a win you would like to share? Any graduates from your RCI coaching 'find the love of their life and the life that they love?' Please pass it on and we'll celebrate it!
Feature Article
RADICAL PERSONAL RESPONSIBILITY
by Paul and Layne Cutright
When you assume radical personal responsibility, you live in a
truth that proclaims-
I am responsible for how I allow others to affect me.
In a world of forces beyond my control, I can learn to be
the keeper of my own heart and mind.
Even when things appear not to be going my way,
and I am upon an emotional sea
of crossing and diverging currents,
I can still navigate my way to my ultimate good fortune.
I proclaim that I am not a victim of the world I see.
I am a co-creator of it.
Let love and wisdom be my moral compass,
and let clarity be the wind in my sails.
New peace, harmony, and power fill your relationships when you
practice radical personal responsibility. Through it, you enter a
more refined sphere of relating that enhances your life and
accelerates the realization of your ultimate spiritual self.
Practicing radical personal responsibility forever changes the
way you approach and resolve conflict.
Jealousy and other emotions like it can appear to be happening to
us or to be inflicted on us by others. But to address the root
cause of any upset, you must learn to observe the internal
factors that shape your own perceptions and reactions. We call
this ability to observe yourself and realize your power to alter
these perceptions and reactions Radical Personal Responsibility.
We call it radical because it is such a departure from what is
commonly thought of as responsibility, which can mean laying
blame. Instead, it is insight into the deeper workings of your
mind that illuminates how you have contributed to any challenging
situation before you.
When you take personal responsibility, what are you taking
responsibility for? You are taking responsibility for your own
consciousness and the effects that it creates. The thoughts,
beliefs, feelings, attitudes, impressions, perceptions, and
interpretations—all of which you hold in your consciousness—can
be a matter of choice.
If you are like most people, you are unaware of all the moments
of choosing that go into your beliefs and your interpretations.
You probably haven't noticed you are making choices all the time,
choices that determine the possibilities that will be open or
closed to you in your future.
If it feels as if your beliefs just show up fully developed and
you have nothing to do with how they came to be a part of you, it
is because you have not developed the ability to observe your own
mind. The CURE (Conscious Upset Resolution Exercise) will help you.
Most of your beliefs were probably “absorbed” from your family
when you were younger. The rest of them were absorbed from the
community you grew up in and from the culture at large. The
process of absorbing them was invisible to you, so you didn't
notice you were doing it. It happened silently, in the background
of your life. The process of absorbing your beliefs was invisible
to you.
Regaining that awareness and accepting personal responsibility is
an acquired skill. If it wasn't demonstrated for you when you
were growing up, or you haven't intentionally studied it, chances
are you haven't a clue about how to do it.
A start is to recognize what personal responsibility is not. In
the absence of personal responsibility, all you can do is blame
others for your difficulties because it looks to you as if they
are to blame. This forever dooms you to a “victim” mentality that
separates you from your personal power and spiritual and
relational maturity. The CURE will teach you, step by step, to
approach life's hurdles in a different way that both enlightens
and empowers you.
Once you learn to practice radical personal responsibility, you
will find a source of inner strength and power that no one can
ever take away from you. Because of your ability to take
authentic, empowered responsibility, you will find that, in time,
upsets become less frequent, of shorter duration, and less
intense. Which means you have more time and energy to focus on
living the kind of life and sharing the kind of relationships you
truly want and deserve.
-- From Chapter One of YOU'RE NEVER UPSET FOR THE REASON YOU
THINK: THE CURE FOR THE COMMON UPSET, a new book by Paul and
Layne Cutright, Master Relationship Coaches and Advanced Couples
Coaching Faculty for RCI.
***See below for a special offer from Paul and Layne to our
newsletter subscribers
Paul & Layne Cutright have just released their new book;
YOU'RE NEVER UPSET FOR THE REASON YOU THINK: THE CURE FOR THE
COMMON UPSET
along with a powerful audio program HOW TO GET OVER IT… FOR GOOD!
Are You Ready for Hurt Feelings, Blame, Anger, Upsets, Arguments,
Disagreements and Misunderstandings to Become a Thing of the
Past?"
"If you are, then you are about to learn the most powerful
conflict resolution tool you will ever use - and the last you
will ever need!"
This is not an ordinary e-book, but a powerful workbook with
tools you can use right away! You will not find this knowledge or
tools any place else.
Highlights of Contents
* Key Assumptions for Successful Conflict Resolution
If you have trouble with any of these nine key assumptions, you
will have a hard time getting to any kind of permanent or
satisfying resolution
* How to Use the CURE Alone
Sometimes you are upset because of events or circumstances - this
chapter helps you to clear your upset quickly & permanently
* How to Use the CURE with Another Person
Often upsets occur in your relationships with others - this
chapter helps you to get to the bottom line and beyond - this is
especially powerful when the other person knows how to use the
CURE
* Guidelines for Telling the Truth
Telling your emotional truth can be powerfully cathartic and
healing, and sometimes it can backfire - with these guidelines
you can be sure that your highest intentions for resolution are
expressed successfully and compassionately
* Sample CURE Worksheets
Actual CURE worksheets used to resolve real upsets in a work setting and a domestic setting to help you see how the CURE can work for you
AND MUCH MORE!
To purchase this brand new, outstanding book (e-book version) for
only $19.95 by visiting
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Best regards,
David Steele, MA, LMFT
Relationship Coach
CEO and Founder of Relationship Coaching Institute
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