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Relationship Coaching News
June 2003

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Archived Newsletter Articles Here

In this issue:

Please note: Our regular “Practice Tips” feature has been moved to our new practice building newsletter available at http://www.BuildingYourIdealPractice.com

Announcements

1. FREE Training Begins June 10th
2. July Practice Building Intensive- 60% Discount!
3. New! DISC For Relationships- Free Teleclass 6/18
4. New Conscious Dating website launched
5. New Relationship Coach Referral System
6. RCI Conference Calls
7. Good Time To Become A Lifetime Member Of RCI: Deadline June 30
8. New Audio Program! “How To Design Compelling Marketing Strategies That Attracts Clients”
9. New Practice Building Website and Newsletter Launched

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1. FREE TRAINING BEGINS June 10th

Learn how to coach singles, couples, and develop asuccessful Relationship Coaching practice, taught by RCI founder David Steele and his teaching staff.

'Introduction to Relationship Coaching'- 3 one-hour teleclasses, Tuesdays, April 10, 17 and 24th; 9:00am pacific/Noon eastern.

June 10th: Class #1: How to Coach Singles
June 17th: Class #2: How to Coach Couples
June 24th: Class #3: How to Build a Successful
Relationship Coaching Practice

Each class includes practical information and materials you can use immediately in your practice.

Please share with your colleagues! To register, visit http://www.relationshipcoachinginstitute.com/freeteleclass.htm

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2. JULY PRACTICE BUILDING INTENSIVE- 60% DISCOUNT!

To celebrate the release of the print version of “ HOW TO BUILD YOUR IDEAL PRACTICE IN 90 DAYS” and the official launch of http://www.BuildingYourIdealPractice.com we are offering a SIXTY PERCENT DISCOUNT on the Practice Building Intensive that begins July 1st.

Summer is the best time to do this program to prepare for a fall launch of your ideal practice. Includes:
-Weekly conference calls with David Steele and Ken Donaldson
-E-mail support
-E-book version of “Building Your Ideal Practice in 90 Days”
-Supplementary materials and audio programs
-Supportive PBI community

Normally $249.00, the July PBI is only $95.00 until July 1st. Even better, check out our“ GO-GETTERS CLUB.”

. 'Practical solutions that really work'
. 'Rich in content'
. 'Complete road map'
. 'Simple, yet powerful'
. 'I'm working less, making more'

No-one is successful alone. Please join us!

For info visit http://www.BuildingYourIdealPractice.com

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Please share with your colleagues!

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3. NEW! DISC FOR RELATIONSHIPS

DISC is a popular and well-respected personality profile used by many coaches. Now, there is a BRAND NEW version of DISC for relationships!

RCI Coaches are invited to join fellow RCI Coach Vicki Simmons for a free teleclass about the newest DISC “In-Depth Relationship Assessment” (INDRA) and its use with our Conscious Dating and Partners In Life programs.

This introductory class will provide you a sample of each assessment, history and background on DISC, and an invitation to get additional training if you choose to add this to your toolbox. Each participant will receive samples to refer to during the class, however, if you would like to take the assessments yourself, before the class, Vicki is offering a professional discount to all participants.

Mark your calendar for Wednesday June 18, 4:00pm pacific/7:00 PM eastern Bridge # and materials will be sent on the RCI Coach listserv

For more information about DISC, DISC INDRA, or to
take the assessment yourself, contact Vicki at
Vicki@vickisimmons.com

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4. NEW CONSCIOUS DATING WEBSITE LAUNCHED

Please visit http://www.ConsciousDating.org, sign up as a free member and see how it works!

Singles that join as free members will be able to access benefits such as audio programs, e-programs, cutting-edge relationship information, access our community of Conscious Dating singles and professionals.

This website is replacing RelationshipCoachingInstitute.com to steer singles to RCI coaches for individual coaching, teleclasses, local programs, etc. Congratulations to President of ConsciousDating.org Tim Rhodes, and webmaster Ken Douglass for their great work putting this together (still in progress).

All the referrals generated by this website go to the RCI coaches listed at http://www.consciousdating.org/coach and all the listed programs and services will be delivered by our certified and master RCI coaches.

Hopefully, this will be an incentive for you to join RCI, get listed on this website, and become certified!

Visit http://www.ConsciousDating.org and check out the cool multi-media intro- be sure to turn up your speakers and put up your feet!

Please pass the word to your single friends, family, and colleagues.
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5. NEW RCI COACH REFERRAL SYSTEM

We are developing http://www.RelationshipCoachFinder.com to direct more traffic to RCI coaches, in addition to listing them on our websites for singles and couples.

You can view our listed RCI singles coaches at http://www.consciousdating.org/coach/ and our listed RCI couples coaches at http://www.partnersinlife.org/coach/
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6. RCI COACH CONFERENCE CALLS

~ June 3; Singles Coaching with Laurie Cameron
~ June 10; Practice Development with Ken Donaldson
~ June 17; Couples Coaching with Linda Marshall
~ EVERY MONDAY; RCI Member Support Tele-Forum with David Steele

Our conference calls are FREE to RCI Coaches, and fall on the 1st, 2nd, and 3rd Tuesday of each month, 2:00pm pacific/5pm eastern. The RCI Member Support Forum meets Mondays at 3pm eastern.
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7. GOOD TIME TO BECOME A LIFETIME MEMBER OF RCI

To celebrate the launching of our new web sites, ConsciousDating.org and PartnersInLife.org, we have a special offer for you.

For a limited time only, a $200.00 discount on our lifetime membership.

Why a lifetime membership?
* you will save in the long run, paying it back after 5 years of membership
* this is less than most coach training programs charge for training alone
* you will be immune from (certain) future price increases
* it demonstrates your dedication and commitment to the field of relationship coaching
* you will be helping RCI improve services, add benefits and make a difference in relationships worldwide
*tax deductible as a business expense or capital (depreciable) expenditure (check with your accountant)

Lifetime RCI membership includes enrollment in both our Singles Coaching and Couples Coaching Programs, allowing you all the benefits of both levels - unlimited downloads of manuals, unlimited training, certification, web page hosting at both of our newest sites: ConsciousDating.org and PartnersInLife.org and more!

Our lifetime membership is normally $3,500.00. You will be eligible for a $200.00 discount until June 30, 2003, so act now!

Have questions or need more information?
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8. HOW TO DESIGN COMPELLING MARKETING STRATEGIES
THAT ATTRACTS CLIENTS

This outstanding new free audio program is now available at http://www.buildingyouridealpractice.com/topfivetips.html

David Steele and Ken Donaldson present simple, effective, affordable ways to get powerful results from your marketing efforts, including:

• Number One Biggest Marketing Mistake and How to Avoid It
• Two Most Important Secrets of Effective Marketing
• Three Key Elements Of Any Marketing Message
• Four Critical Questions You Must Answer Immediately To Get Results
• Single Most Effective Feature Of Any Marketing Effort

If you want to learn how to effectively market your service or product, this audio program is for you! We take the mystery out of marketing and provide you practical ideas that you can implement immediately.

To view the content and listen to the audio, visit http://www.buildingyouridealpractice.com/topfivetips.html

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9. NEW PRACTICE BUILDING WEBSITE AND NEWSLETTER LAUNCHED

Beginning this month, the practice building information and tips that readers of “Relationship Coaching News” are accustomed to getting here, will be moved to our NEW monthly newsletter “How to Get Clients” at http://www.BuildingYourIdealPractice.com

To subscribe, send a blank e-mail to
RCI-36091@autocontactor.com

Welcome New RCI Coaches!

The following coaches joined our ranks this past month:

Victoria Alexander, MA, New York, NY
Sean Atkisson, MA, Eldon, MO
Tawnya Atkisson, Eldon, MO
Douglas Brady, MA, Montecito, CA
Seantelle Guillory, Oakland, CA
Johna Hartnell, Ph.D, Madison, WI
Joyce Leonard, San Francisco, CA
Cynthia Luma, MA, York, ME
Victoria Mech, MA, Jupiter, FL
Lynne Michelson, MA, St. Louis, MO
Dave Morris, Seattle, WA
Clarinda Sayre, Lees Summit, MO
Nanette Traetow, Glen Ellyn, IL
Shirley Vollett, Vancouver, Canada
Tonja Weimer, M.ED, Greenville, SC

THANK YOU for telling your colleagues about RCI!

Congrats!

CONGRATS TO Char Warman (Cincinnati, OH) who just got married!

After a “Virtual Wedding Shower” thrown by Marsha Murphy and her fellow RCI Coaches she wrote:

"Steve & I thank you from the bottom of our wedded hearts!!! This is the only 'shower' we had -- save for the torrential rain that fell during our entire wedding trip except on our wedding day. God really shone on us figuratively and literally that day! But to come home & find that you threw us a 'virtual shower' was so touching!!! I had a Cheshire cat grin from ear to ear & Steve thought the idea was phenomenal!!! We both feel enveloped by the love of the RCI community...and so very grateful. What an incredible group of people you are!!! Thank you!!! Thank you!!! Thank you!!!”

CONGRATS TO Katherin Scott (Seattle, WA) who
writes:

"I am an RCI Coach - and I have partnered with DiscoverU of Seattle to create the Friday Night Social in Seattle!”

CONGRATS TO Alice Vlietstra (St. Louis, MO) who writes:

I developed an introductory 6-week SuccessfulRelating class for one of the largest non-denominational churches in St. Louis that integrates ideas from the Rests program with a spiritual approach. They are the spiritually-oriented cultural creative singles. It is going over very well. Sold out, many positive comments, and two have come up to volunteer help with additional programs and have talked about retreats. Several are signing up for the RESTS program.”

CONGRATS TO Marci Moore and Pam Williams (Seminole, FL) who write:

"We have our first singles event coming up on Tuesday night – it will be an ongoing, in person 1 hour workshop each month. We are really excited – the first event is centered on the dating traps. David, thanks so very much for your generosity. Related to this, we have a big win! About two weeks ago, we spoke to the editor of a local gay & lesbian magazine about advertising. He was still getting the May issue ready and said he would hold the publication for our ad. I wrote him and told him that we wouldn't be able to advertise this month (still working on our logo), but that we would appreciate it if he would list our free event in the magazine's community calendar.

Not only did he put the next three events in the calendar, he also did a story!! We are heading to Disney's Gay Days at the beginning of June and plan to wear t-shirts with our logo (& web site address) & a catchy title and just be in the middle of our target market having fun!”


Our coaches are certainly committed, talented, and making things happen! It is my honor to be part of this community that is making such a difference in the lives and relationships of others.

Have a win you would like to share? Any graduates from your RCI coaching 'find the love of their life and the life that they love?' Please pass it on and we'll celebrate it!

Feature Article

CONSCIOUS DATING AND "THE BACHELOR"
by David Steele

Like a deer in headlights, I've been watching the TV reality series "The Bachelor" with a combination of horror and fascination.

MY HORROR: Shopping for a life partner on TV, the "un-reality" of dating on camera, proposing marriage after 6 weeks, millions of impressionable viewers thinking that this is how it's supposed to be done!

MY FASCINATION: Gosh, it's actually a very "conscious" process!

In this season's final episode, my family and I cheered when millionaire winemaker and Firestone Tire heir Andrew chose girl-next-door Jen (I'm still grieving for Aaron rejecting the incredible Gwen to choose Helene, then breaking up with her soon after- the cad!).

We were SO relieved Andrew didn't choose finalist Kirsten, as she didn't appear to be ready and available for a committed relationship (unfinished with old boyfriend), appeared motivated for the wrong reasons (..."ambitious" for what? How transparent!), and did not appear compatible with his lifestyle and requirements (his family had to reinforce to her that they "work hard").

Then, in the follow-up show that interviewed them a few months later, I was impressed that Jen was going to move to her own apartment in San Francisco, and she and Andrew would "date" for awhile and let their relationship evolve naturally. You GO girl!

During this show, it struck me how their process paralleled our "Four Critical Skills for Singles;" "Scouting," "Sorting," "Screening," and "Testing."

As a reminder:

  • "Scouting" is the process of finding potential partners to meet
  • "Sorting" is the process of quickly determining if there is enough in common to pursue a potential relationship
  • "Screening" is the process of collecting enough information to know if your requirements would be met
  • "Testing" is the process of testing out chemistry, compatibility, and the information you received to gain experience and knowledge of the relationship's long-term potential before entering a pre-committed relationship.

Not that I recommend going on a "reality" show to find your Life Partner, but let's look at some parallels:

SCOUTING: Based upon their knowledge of The Bachelor's requirements, the show's producers scout the country for likely candidates (now THIS part I like!).

SORTING: Applicants submit videotapes and audition in person.

SCREENING: The producers screen the applicants down to 25, and the screening is continued by The Bachelor when the show starts by hanging out and having conversations with the women and eliminating some each week.

TESTING: The Bachelor and his chosen finalists go on individual dates, meet each other's families, agonizing and comparing to winnow the candidates down to the one who will get the proposal.

While I question finding a Life Partner in this manner and committing to marriage after 6 weeks, Andrew and Jen found each other, have wisely backed up a little to the "pre-commitment" stage, are happy, and are now following their own path. Good for them!

CONCLUSION:

Reflecting on "The Bachelor" and similar shows, and their mixed results for participants, I'm reminded that:

  1. The process of dating and mating is different for everyone; there is no absolute right or wrong
  2. Finding your Life Partner is not always a linear process
  3. Finding and having relationships can be very challenging,
  4. Relationships are worth the risk
  5. Dating can have surprising outcomes (positive and negative)
  6. Dating is best approached by being CONSCIOUS!

(c)2003 by David Steele / All rights reserved / http://www.relationshipcoachinginstitute.com

Invitations:

  • I invite you to share your announcements, wins, coaching or practice tips with the rest of us. Be visible! Let's connect! Send them to me at
  • I invite you to share this newsletter with a colleague. There is a tremendous need for our services, and we need to work together. Relationship Coaching is in its infancy, and we must collaborate to build our market niche and position as a resource of wide appeal for anyone who wants a successful relationship.
  • I invite you to join our on-line community of helping professionals.
  • I invite you to listen to the following introductory recordings 24 hours a day at your convenience online. (some are also available by telephone):
    • Introduction to Relationship Coaching
    • Finding The Love Of Your Life AND The Life That You Love
    • Conscious Dating For Relationship Success
    • All About RCI
    • Practice Building Intensive (sample conference call)
    • Radical Thoughts on Converting Prospects to Clients
    • How To Design Compelling Marketing Strategies That Attracts Clients
    • And more!
  • I invite you to get the support you need to be successful in your practice. We are available for information, training, ideas, mentor coaching, etc.
  • If you are a coach or therapist who received this from a colleague, I invite you to visit our web site and contact us for information on joining us and becoming a RelationshipCoachingInstitute Relationship Coach. Ask about getting a free copy of our introductory audiotape, and about our free teleclasses.
  • To subscribe to this newsletter, our newsletter for SINGLES, or our newsletter for COUPLES, see this page.
  • For a description of RCI relationship coaching trainings, schedule, and enrollment info, visit http://www.relationshipcoachinginstitute.com

How do you like our newsletter?
Your feedback is welcome! Until next time....
Best regards,
David Steele, MA, LMFT
Relationship Coach
CEO and Founder of RelationshipCoachingInstitute/Relationship Coaching Institute

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