FREE 90 Day Practice Building Program Starts Jan 9th
FREE EFT e-manual! January Training Scheduled
The Only Communication Book You Need
RESTS Update Coming Soon
RCI Conference Calls
International Coaching Week Coming In February
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1. FREE TRAINING BEGINS FEB 4TH
Learn how to coach singles, couples, and develop a successful Relationship
Coaching practice, taught by RCI founder David Steele and his teaching
staff.
"Introduction To Relationship Coaching"- 3 one-hour teleclasses,
Tuesdays, Feb 4, 11, and 18; 9:00am pacific/Noon eastern.
Please share with your colleagues! To register, visit
http://www.relationshipcoachinginstitute.com/freeteleclass.htm
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2. FREE 90 DAY PRACTICE BUILDING PROGRAM STARTS JAN 9TH
This FREE program is open to all helping professionals, combining the
step-by-step, detailed instructions from 'How To Build Your Ideal Practice
In 90 Days,' with weekly conference calls and an on-line discussion list,
for a powerful and affordable combination to support
you to have your ideal practice!
Join now! There's still time. To register, send a blank e-mail to pbi-jan03-subscribe@yahoogroups.com
"HOW TO BUILD YOUR IDEAL PRACTICE IN 90 DAYS" e-book by David
Steele
This book can help you build the practice of your dreams with less time
and money than you ever thought possible. Full of free and low-cost practice
development resources. 100% satisfaction guaranteed!
· "Practical solutions that really work"
· "rich in content"
· "complete road map"
· "simple, yet powerful"
· "I'm working less, making more"
For more info, visit http://www.BuildingYourIdealPractice.com
Please share with your colleagues!
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3. FREE EFT E-MANUAL! JANAUARY TRAINING SCHEDULED
From a subscriber:
“Dear David,
Just in case part of your mission is wanting to make a difference in people's
lives, I thought I would tell you what happened last night.
You gave us the opportunity to have an e-book on EFT. I tried it out by
going to the root of why I am alone and tapped on ''I am terrified a man
will ask me for a date/want sex with me.''
Last night I attended a 'build your practice' meeting and noticed a man
across the room was looking at me. Instantly I smiled at him. He briefly
smiled back and looked away.
Now this is an ABSOLUTE FIRST! I do not smile at men...now I do. I had
no investment in the smile and have no wish to know any more about that
particular man, but I am very hopeful that now I will be able to smile
at a man I do want to know more.
Thank you for sending out this info!”
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EFT WORKS! Now check this out:
“Emotional Freedom Techniques: The New Approach To Personal Power
That Works!” is available from RCI thanks to Layne and Paul Cutright
of Enlightened Partners, who have pioneered the use of EFT with relationships.
Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) are simple and effective ways to handle
undesired emotional reactions. They are easily learned and you can teach
them to your clients.
We have had glowing feedback about Paul Cutright and his EFT training
from participating RCI coaches. The next EFT basic training is January
6 - 10 at 8pm EST, followed by the EFT Advanced training January 13 -
17 at 8pm EST.
For discounted registration for RCI coaches and newsletter subscribers:
To download your FREE copy of “Emotional Freedom Techniques: The
New Approach To Personal Power That Works!” go to www.RelationshipCoachingInstitute.com/resourcecatalogue/ebook-eft.htm
4. THE ONLY COMMUNICATION BOOK YOU NEED
“Straight From the Heart! An Essential Guide for Developing, Deepening
& Renewing Your Relationships” by Paul and Layne Cutright is
truly a foundational approach to communication.
With this short and simple guidebook you can create the magnificent relationships
you truly desire. “Straight From the Heart” provides step-by-step
guidance and practical exercises you can do with your romantic partner,
business colleagues, family members and friends.
The e-book version includes FREE “How To Have Heart To Heart Talks”
audio program- highly recommended!
Only $19.95 AND includes a 100% money-back guarantee-
http://QuickPayPro.com/x/qpp.cgi?adminid=1970&id=32740&pid=4892
We are close to completing an updated version of our RELATIONSHIP SUCCESS
TRAINING FOR SINGLES (RESTS) program, which should be ready for downloading
by RCI coaches and their clients by the end of this month.
For a preview, see “What You Believe, You Can Achieve” below.
We have included new exercises and re-organized them, removed some content,
improved the existing content, and re-organized the material into six
sections, adding material to help your clients get started in the Attraction
stage.
You will love it!
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6. RCI COACH CONFERENCE CALLS
~ Jan 7; Singles Coaching with Laurie Cameron
~ Jan 14; Practice Development with Laurie Cameron
~ Jan 21; Couples Coaching with Linda Marshall
~ EVERY MONDAY; RCI Member Support Tele-Forum with David Steele
Our conference calls are FREE to RCI Coaches, and fall on the 1st, 2nd,
and 3rd Tuesday of each month, 2:00pm pacific/5pm eastern. The RCI Member
Support Forum meets Mondays at 3pm eastern.
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7. INTERNATIONAL COACHING WEEK COMING IN FEBRUARY
The first week in February is International Coaching Week. Use this opportunity
to raise visibility for your practice and our profession. Check out http://www.coachingweek.com.
Welcome New RCI Coaches!
The following coaches joined our ranks this past month:
Trish Anton, St. Paul, MN
Valerie Baldwin, Beaverton, OR
Ted Brassfield, Southfield, MI
Janice Cole, Hertford, NC
Taina Ketola, Ontario, Canada
Kimberly Pulliam, Fairfax, VA
THANK YOU for telling your colleagues about RCI!
Congrats!
CONGRATS TO RCI coaches Michelle Zelig and Jonathon
Pourau (AUS) who were recently married (to each other!) at Hayman
Island on the Great Barrier Reef, Queensland, Australia.
CONGRATS TO Barry North (WA) who writes:
"I want to share with you a letter I just received from a man
who attended one of my workshops. Of course we know that we as relationship
coaches make a profound difference for people. It's always nice to have
someone who's life has been changed tell you so. I do what I do because
I love what I do. This letter makes it all worthwhile."
" I just wanted to send along this note to say thank you for
the great course you gave last year at Gay City University. The course
really had a profound affect on my life. I believe it is one of the
reasons I am now in a very happy, committed relationship. Your principles
of conscious dating and knowing the difference between recreational
dating and a quest for a committed relationship were real revelations
for me."
"I was able to put your techniques into practice almost immediately.
It gave me the impetus to leave a relationship that wasn't getting me
where I wanted to be and quickly lead me to my current partner. I am
now in love for the first time in my life and know both in my heart
and in my head that he is the right person."
"As my boyfriend and I continue in our relationship, I feel like
we have some valuable tools to apply as we grow together and work towards
our long-term goals. Thanks again and I look forward to attending your
next class at GCU.”
Regards
M.F.
CONGRATS TO Frances Amaroux (AUS) who writes:
"Thanks to all the people who have shown such an enthusiastic
response to ‘my’ concept about ‘HugBuddies.’
David has invited me to post my paper on the RCI list – so I
would love to. Just have to clean it up a little to make it relevant
for you – and this will probably have to be done in the New Year
as I’m off on my annual 2 week holidays over our summer break
here in Australia.
Also someone suggested that I do SIG on this succulent subject –
so if there’s enough interest, I’d love to !! I’m
also negotiating with some publishers to write a book on this –
yahoo!!
***Editor’s note: Here is Frances’ definition of “Hugbuddies,”
a concept she share that she learned from the Human Awareness Institute
(HAI);
"A HugBuddy is someone - either male or female who you have a
close friendship with who you sleep with - either regularly or irregularly-
but don't have sex with. They provide closeness, touch and intimacy
without sex. They are great when you’re in between relationships.
Just because we are not in a relationship does not mean our need for
the healing power of touch diminishes.”
CONGRATS TO Laurie Cameron (CO) who writes:
“If you're interested, below is a link to an article I was interviewed
for in The Rocky Mountain News that ran yesterday. I want to share it
with you to help you realize there are many different ways to get free
visibility. I have been cultivating a relationship with the Relationship
Editor at the News for a few years now. It included sending him press
releases, and BRIEF emails about classes I was doing. Mostly brief connections
over time. He has interviewed me for an article a few times over these
years, but has called me twice in the last three months!
And you can bet he's getting a nice gift basket delivered to his office
this week!
Bottom line: make contacts, take care of these relationships, and
hang in there! Be consistent and persistent.
“I wanted to share with you that I appeared on a Santa Barbara
radio talk show recently to talk about ways to survive holiday stress.
If you are interested, you can listen to excerpts on my website at http://www.coachlauren.com
on the home page, click on the Christmas ornament.
If you like my website, check out my web designer, http://www.xybermedia.com/procoach
to view his special offer for coaches and service professionals.”
Our coaches are certainly committed, talented, and making things happen!
It is my honor to be part of this community that is making such a difference
in the lives and relationships of others.
Have a win you would like to share? Any graduates from your RCI coaching
'find the love of their life and the life that they love?' Please pass
it on and we'll celebrate it!
Relationship Coaching Technology:
WHAT YOU BELIEVE, YOU CAN ACHIEVE
by David Steele
Our reality and results are largely determined by our beliefs and attitudes.
Attitudes are internal beliefs that create your experience of yourself,
others, and life; the way you see things and your internal state of “being”
that are largely self-fulfilling; they WILL be true because you believe
them and allow them to be true.
Attitudes are influenced by your personality and experiences, and can
be positive and productive, or negative and unproductive. You can consciously
choose the ones that serve you and let go of the ones that sabotage you.
TOP SELF-LIMITING BELIEFS ABOUT SINGLES
Everyone has fears and self-limiting beliefs, but are often unaware of
them. Check the ones below that fit for you. When reading each one, do
a “gut check,” and if you experience the slightest physical
or emotional reaction, it most likely applies to you.
ABOUT SELF:
_____ 1. I’m not good enough
_____ 2. I don’t deserve love
_____ 3. I don’t deserve to be happy
_____ 4. I’m not __________ (attractive, successful, young, rich,
thin, etc) enough
_____ 5. I’m too __________ (old, unattractive, dysfunctional, late,
unsuccessful, etc)
ABOUT DATING:
_____ 6. All the good ones are taken
_____ 7. I have to take what I can get, or be alone
_____ 8. My “Ideal Partner” doesn’t exist, or is already
taken
_____ 9. There is no such thing as a “Soul Mate” or “True
Love”
_____10. I must be “realistic” in my expectations
ABOUT RELATIONSHIPS:
_____11. I will be rejected if I ask for what I want, or say “no”
_____12. I will be abandoned if I care too much
_____13. I will hurt the one I love
_____14. I will be smothered or controlled
_____15. I will lose myself
_____16. I will be hurt if I trust
_____17. If you really know me, you won’t like or love me
TOP 10 RELATIONSHIP ATTITUDES
Below is a list of attitudes that we believe are important for singles
to adopt to find fulfillment in life and relationships.
I will be happy by having goals and letting go of attachment to outcomes
I strive to live and “be” in the present
I love, accept, and trust myself
I focus on connecting, not results; a partner is someone to love,
not an object or goal
I strive to be authentic; being fully honest with myself and others,
aligning my words, values and actions
I strive to live my life with intentionality; making choices conscious
of my goals and consequences
I strive to take the necessary risks, overcome my fears, and stretch
my comfort level to reach my goals
I assume abundance; all the opportunities and resources that I need
will appear
I take responsibility for my outcomes by taking initiative in my
life and relationships
What others judge about me is about them; I strive to let go of what
others think and not take it personally
In what ways do you limit and sabotage yourself?
How can you adopt the beliefs and attitudes you need to be successful?
Letting go of self-limiting beliefs and adopting productive attitudes
is very challenging to most singles. Dating and relationships can trigger
these issues quite strongly during the Attraction stage, and really test
your resolve.
The Attraction stage is a pivotal point in your Life Partner Quest. As
you notice yourself being challenged by these barriers, we encourage you
to get the support you need from your friends, family, therapist, coach,
and/or coaching team. No-one is successful alone.
NOTE: The above will be included in our updated RELATIONSHIP SUCCESS
TRAINING FOR SINGLES program. For more info visit www.RelationshipCoachingInstitute.com
Practice Tips:
RADICAL THOUGHTS ON CONVERTING PROSPECTS TO CLIENTS
by David Steele
It is very common when you are marketing your practice to find yourself
engaging someone who is interested and attracted, but 'can't afford it
right now' or 'it's not a good time' or wants to 'think about it.'
In my opinion, if someone is interested and attracted to working with
you, or taking your class or workshop, and comes up with reasons such
as the above:
It is not about time
It is not about money
It is not about needing to “think about it”
I propose that their hesitation is really about FEAR.
In my opinion, to help a prospective client overcome their FEAR you need
to be PUSHY (in a way that fits for you).
Think about it. You help your clients overcome their fears and take action
all the time. Why not do this with prospective clients as well?
MOST PROSPECTS FIT THIS CATEGORY, and you need to be effective in helping
them past their fear to hire you. This is a pivotal choice point in their
life. Behavior is not random, it follows patterns, and unless you can
coach them past their fear, it is likely they will continue to follow
this pattern and stay stuck where they are in their life.
This is coaching at its best.
Just to be clear, this applies to prospects that ARE INTERESTED, but
are hesitant. This DOES NOT APPLY to prospects that are not interested
or say “No.”
How do you help your clients move past their fears?
Can you do the same with your prospective clients?
Sample coaching questions for helping clients and prospects past fear:
1. What do you risk if you do/don’t do this?
2. What would happen if we did/did not work together?
3. How would your life be different if you did/did not do this?
4. How else does this stop you from going after what you want? Are you
ready to change that?
5. Are you willing to brainstorm ways to make this work?
6. Where do you want to be in 5 Years? How will you get there? When do
you want to start?
I highly recommend listening to a web audio recording titled RADICAL
THOUGHTS ON CONVERTING PROSPECTS TO CLIENTS on
the audio section my web site
YOU ARE INVITED to join my next Practice Building Intensive beginning
January 9th.
This 90 day program is FREE, included with the purchase of 'How To Build
Your Ideal Practice In 90 Days.'
(See http://www.BuildingYourIdealPractice.com)
To register for this FREE 3 month program visit
http://www.relationshipcoachinginstitute.com/practicebuilding.htm
Please pass the word to your interested colleagues!
Invitations:
I invite you to share your announcements, wins, coaching or practice
tips with the rest of us. Be visible! Let's connect! Send them to me
at
I invite you to share this newsletter with a colleague. There is a
tremendous need for our services, and we need to work together. Relationship
Coaching is in its infancy, and we must collaborate to build our market
niche and position as a resource of wide appeal for anyone who wants
a successful relationship.
Finding The Love Of Your Life AND The Life That You Love
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And more!
I invite you to get the support you need to be successful in your
practice. We are available for information, training, ideas, mentor
coaching, etc.
If you are a coach or therapist who received this from a colleague,
I invite you to visit our web site and contact
us for information on joining us and becoming a RelationshipCoachingInstitute
Relationship Coach. Ask about getting a free copy of our introductory
audiotape, and about our free teleclasses.
To subscribe to this newsletter, our newsletter for SINGLES, or our
newsletter for COUPLES, see this page.
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How do you like our newsletter?
Your feedback is welcome! Until next time....
Best regards,
David Steele, MA, LMFT
Relationship Coach
CEO and Founder of RelationshipCoachingInstitute/Relationship Coaching Institute
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find the love of their life and the life that they love, and to help couples
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