The first Friday of each month we have a one-hour conference call for
helping professionals interested in RCI trainings, programs, and membership
benefits, with David Steele, Jana Collar, and Colleen DeCew. We detail
our programs and membership benefits and answer your questions.
=>First Friday of each month: February 1, March 1, and April 5; 9am
pacific/Noon eastern
Bridge # 865-362-4150, PIN 0723
Curious about RCI/RCI? Join us! Please pass the word!
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2. FREE INTRODUCTORY TRAINING
"Introduction To Relationship Coaching For Singles"; 3 one-hour
teleclasses, March 4, 6, and 8; 9:00am pacific/Noon eastern. This class
will cover how to coach singles and develop a successful Relationship
Coaching practice, conducted by David Steele, Laurie Cameron, Jana Collar,
and Colleen DeCew. Please pass this on to your colleagues! To register,
visit http://www.relationshipcoachinginstitute.com/freeteleclass.htm
9 CEU's are available for eligible mental health professionals participating
in this training. To qualify you must contact us PRIOR to the start of
the training- Jana@RelationshipCoachingInstitute.com
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3. "CONSCIOUS DATING®" BOOK EXCERPTS
To receive free weekly excerpts of this soon-to-be published book for
singles, send a blank e-mail to RCI-11112@autocontactor.com
For more info about this book, check out http://www.ConsciousDating.com
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4. RCI IS APPROVED FOR CEU'S
We are now able to provide CEU's for our relationship coaching trainings
to most licensed mental health professionals at very reasonable rates.
Participants in all of our 2002 trainings, including our free introductory
series, are eligible to apply for CEU's.
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5. INTRODUCTION TO LIFE COACHING
Pat Williams of the Institute For Life Coach Training will be conducting
two FREE one-hour teleclasses on Life Coaching,
Wednesdays, February 6 and 13 at 1pm pacific/4pm eastern.
To register, contact Edwina@LifeCoachTraining.com
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6. RELATIONSHIP READINESS QUIZ FOR SINGLES
This 10-question interactive quiz helps singles determine their level
of readiness for a relationship, and provide suggestions for improvement.
Check it out at
http://ConsciousDating.org/members/quiz/
Please share with the singles in your life that you care about.
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7. RCI COACH CONFERENCE CALLS
~February 5; Singles Coaching with Laurie Cameron
~February 12; Practice Development with Laurie Cameron
~February 19; Couples Coaching with Linda Marshall
Our conference calls are FREE to RCI Coaches, and fall on the 1st, 2nd,
and 3rd Tuesday of each month, 9:00am pacific/Noon eastern
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The following coaches joined our ranks this past month:
Toni Erickson, MSW, Boulder, CO
John Forestall, Naples, FL
Lori Gortner, JD, Menlo Park, CA
Donna Keith, MA, North San Juan, CA
Marilyn Moore, MA, Minneapolis, MN
Marcy Rich, MA, Scottsdale, AZ
Dan Trepanier, Toronto, Canada
Congrats!
(Note to readers- the theme this month seems to be COLLABORATION. Read
below for some great examples of RCI coaches from different states partnering
up)
CONGRATS TO Christine Green (MA) for becoming our latest "Certified
Relationship Coach"
CONGRATS TO Tom Volkar (PA) who writes:
"Secured my first couple coaching client this morning simply by
following the suggestions you laid out in your article on 'Couple Coaching
Using The RCI Workbook.' It was smooth and they told me that they quit
marriage counseling because it had no specific results intended. They
are ready to focus in the now and move forward with couple coaching."
CONGRATS TO Dan Trepanier (CN) who hit the ground running by partnering
with our own Barry North (WA) to create "GayPartnerQuest."
Their web site is an excellent example of using RCI content to their
advantage- check it out at http://www.gaypartnerquest.com
***Cool coast-to-coast COLLABORATION!
CONGRATS TO Salila Shen (CO), Michael Cohen (CT), and David Bentley
(WA) for collaborating to create a relationship newsletter for the Gay/Lesbian/Bi-Sexual/Transgendered
community. To subscribe, e-mail ThoughtfulQueries-request@listdeliver.com
and put "subscribe" in the message body.
***Notice the creative COLLABORATION of RCI coaches from coast to coast!
Now THIS is the power of community.
CONGRATS TO Barry North (WA) who writes (edited):
"I just finished my 4th session with my Partners In Life couple.
This evening, thanks to my coaching (pat, pat), they had a big breakthrough.
I believe the PIL exercises brought them to this breakthrough. These
are the moments in coaching that I value so much personally. I love
being a coach! Thanks for helping me become a Master Relationship Coach.
Yeah!"
CONGRATS TO our own Annie Martinez (France) who is helping organize
the second ICF European Coaching Conference near Barcelona, Spain, May
9-11, 2002. She expects 500 attendees. Theme is "Carrying Coaching
Between Cultures". For info check out http://www.coachfederation.org/conference/europe/index.htm
CONGRATS TO Michelle Blacksher (OR) who writes:
"I am having a RESTS at our Portland Community
College. I think I have between ten and fifteen already
registered. And, PCC has already asked me to come back
to teach the RESTS class next term as well.
Things are really beginning to pick up around here for
me with regard to the RESTS program. And, Mike
McCartney and I have been working together putting on
workshops for single Christians here in the Portland
area, as well. He flies in for the weekend and does a
TERRIFIC job!
Thank you, David, for all of your continuing support.
And again, you have done an incredible job with the
RESTS program. I can hardly wait to get copies of your
new book to share."
***Great COLLABORATION!
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Our coaches are certainly committed, talented, and making things happen!
It is my honor to be part of this community that is making such a difference
in the lives and relationships of others.
Have a win you would like to share? Any graduates from your RCI coaching
"find the love of their life and the life that they love?" Please
pass it on and we'll celebrate it!
Relationship Coaching Technology:
BENEFITS OF COMMITTED RELATIONSHIPS
By David Steele
We have a powerful need and desire for coupling that drives us into and
out of relationships. The desire for partnership is pervasive and universal,
reaching back to the origin of our species, spanning almost every culture
and civilization.
85% of us marry at least once. In a recent survey, 94% of young adults
stated that finding a "soul mate" was one of their highest goals.
The vast majority of us want partnership and are driven into and out of
relationships seeking- what? Love? Happiness? Security? Healing? All of
the above?
Abraham Maslow's Hierarchy Of Needs might give us a clue to what we want
in relationships. Once our physical needs are met (food, shelter, sex)
we pursue our higher order needs, such as emotional needs for love and
pleasure, and our spiritual needs such as meaning and purpose. As a society
we have secured our physical needs, and are evolving to prioritize our
emotional and spiritual needs.
In spite of the high failure rate of marriage and the availability of
other options, why are we still driven to pair up in monogamous, committed
relationships? There are many benefits to a committed relationship beyond
survival of the species:
REGULAR, SAFE, GOOD SEX: Committed, monogamous partners have more,
and better sex than singles and non-committed partners.
COMPANIONSHIP: We are social beings and are comforted by closeness.
Married people are healthier, happier, and live longer than singles.
INTIMACY: Emotional closeness, love, trust, mutual support, builds
and improves over time in a committed relationship, and is much more
difficult to achieve in quality and quantity outside of a committed
relationship.
FAMILY: Both children and adults thrive in an environment of stable,
long-term, multi-generational relationships.
ECONOMICS: Committed couples are financially more successful than
singles and non-committed partners.
COMMUNITY: Extended family, neighbors, churches, and other forms of
networks of supportive relationships thrive on the stability of committed
relationships.
MENTAL/EMOTIONAL/PHYSICAL HEALTH: Married adults live longer and have
fewer mental/emotional problems.
The above is an excerpt from Chapter Two of "Conscious Dating®."
For more info visit www.ConsciousDating.com
Practice Tips:
TEN REVENUE STREAMS FOR COACHES
By David Steele
I believe we all have talents and gifts, and can achieve great things
by following our passion.
I discovered coaching in 1997, fell in love with it, and followed my
passion for applying coaching to relationships. Recently I compiled a
list of how I generate income, and was astounded at how far I have come
since my days as a Marriage And Family Therapist in private practice,
counting TEN revenue streams in addition to seeing clients 1:1.
If I can do it, so can you. Here is a list of my ten revenue streams,
and I invite you to consider how you can follow your passion and add each
one to your business:
TANGIBLE, STRUCTURED PROGRAMS
The public doesn't look in the yellow pages and buy an intangible service
such as "coaching," they want tangible benefits and solutions.
I packaged the relationship coaching tools I developed into my "Relationship
Success For Singles" program and "Partners In Life" for
couples, which proved to be effective in attracting clients.
GROUP PROGRAMS
Classes, teleclasses, workshops, and my favorite- the "Coaching
Team" (a model of group coaching that I developed). Classes are
popular and appeal to our potential clients because they offer useful,
practical information, are time limited, at an affordable price. Besides
generating income, class participants are our best prospective clients.
TRAINING OTHER PROFESSIONALS
Having developed my own approach for coaching clients, I offer training
for others who want to expand their practice and skills by learning
useful, proven concepts, methods, and practice tools, and not recreate
the wheel
LICENSING PROGRAMS
Having developed effective coaching programs for my niche, other professionals
can license the use of these programs.
WORKBOOKS AND MANUALS
Clients and other professionals can purchase hard copies or download
from my web site
MENTOR COACHING
My favorite- I really enjoy helping other professionals design and build
their practices. My experience and track record in building my own give
me credibility to mentor others.
COACHING COMMUNITIES
I created a community of coaches in my niche, as well as a community
of clients in my niche. People need and benefit from community participation
and support, and if they receive value and tangible benefits, they are
willing to pay for membership.
E-PROGRAMS
I developed an e-version of my practice-building program, and will be
developing e-programs for singles and couples when I finish writing
my book. Anybody know where I can find a few more hours in a day?
AFFILIATE PROGRAMS
Members of my affiliate program receive a percentage of any sales referred
to my web site. In addition, I refer to selected organizations/businesses
whose products I support and believe in, some of whom have affiliate
programs, such as Coachville, and receive a percentage.
CO-BRANDING
This is on my to-do list... partnering with like and complementary organizations
and businesses to offer our services under their name. This is an easy
way for them to add to their revenue streams, typically without cost
or effort on their part. For example, partnering with a local singles
organization to offer our classes under their name to their members
and customers.
HOW MANY WOULD YOU LIKE TO ADD TO YOUR PRACTICE?
I would love to help you transform your dreams for your practice into
reality, and generate income from 10 different directions. Contact me
for Mentor Coaching if this appeals to you.
Invitations:
I invite you to share your announcements, wins, coaching or practice
tips with the rest of us. Be visible! Let's connect! Send them to me
at
I invite you to share this newsletter with a colleague. There is a
tremendous need for our services, and we need to work together. Relationship
Coaching is in its infancy, and we must collaborate to build our market
niche and position as a resource of wide appeal for anyone who wants
a successful relationship.
I invite you to listen to the following introductory recordings FREE
(except for long distance charges) 24 hours a day at your convenience
online,
or by calling 918-222-7201 and entering the extension #:
#347: Introduction to Relationship Coaching for Singles
#346: Finding The Love Of Your Life AND The Life That You Love
#345: Conscious Dating For Relationship Success
I invite you to get the support you need to be successful in your
practice. We are available for information, training, ideas, mentor
coaching, etc.
If you are a coach or therapist who received this from a colleague,
I invite you to visit our web site and contact
us for information on joining us and becoming a RelationshipCoachingInstitute
Relationship Coach. Ask about getting a free copy of our introductory
audiotape, and about our free teleclasses.
To subscribe to this newsletter, our newsletter for SINGLES, or our newsletter
for COUPLES, see this page.
For a description of RCI relationship coaching trainings, schedule,
and enrollment info, visit http://www.relationshipcoachinginstitute.com
How do you like our newsletter?
Your feedback is welcome! Until next time....
Best regards,
David Steele, MA, LMFT
Relationship Coach
CEO and Founder of RelationshipCoachingInstitute/Relationship Coaching Institute
The purpose of this newsletter is to connect, support each other, inform,
and build a strong community of coaches dedicated to helping people find
fulfillment in their lives and relationships.
This monthly newsletter is written for the benefit of RCI Relationship
Coaches, and is available to interested others. Feel free to share this
with a colleague. Your submissions and feedback are welcome!
Our Mission: To provide the tools, information and support to help singles
find the love of their life and the life that they love, and to help couples
co-create fulfilling and lasting Life Partnerships.
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